How to Rebuild Your Life After Losing Everything

Jul 31, 2025

By Will Moore

Losing everything doesn’t just mean your home, your job, or your relationship. It can feel like you’ve lost your sense of identity, your will to move forward, and sometimes even your hope. I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to wake up with a heavy chest and wonder if anything will ever feel normal again.

But I also know this: rebuilding is possible. Not overnight, and not without effort—but it is absolutely within reach.

In this guide, you’ll learn a step-by-step plan on how to rebuild your life after losing everything—even hope. These aren’t generic tips or vague motivational fluff. They’re the same strategies I used to go from emotional rock bottom to renewed purpose, confidence, and stability within 90 days.

Upgrades You’ll Gain From This Blog:

How to reset your mindset when everything feels broken
How to set goals that matter (even when you're unsure who you are now)
The habits that create momentum from day one
How to rebuild your support system when you feel alone

No matter what brought you here—divorce, job loss, trauma, grief—you are not stuck. You’re not finished. This is your reset. Let’s begin.

What Does Rebuilding Yourself Mean?

Rebuilding yourself is about intentionally evolving as a person - your mindset, lifestyle, relationships and circumstances - to better align with your desired vision for your life. It requires self-awareness, discipline, and a growth mindset, but it allows you to pave your own path to becoming your best self.

Why 90 Days?

Setting a specific timeframe, like 90 days, creates a sense of urgency and commitment. It's a manageable duration long enough to make significant changes yet short enough to maintain focus. As Tony Robbins said, "By giving yourself a deadline, you're more likely to start and grow an active commitment to your goal."

Our lives often get stuck in a rut of daily routine and complacency. A 90-day challenge provides the jolt needed to break free from the inertia of old habits and patterns. It's a chance to hit the reset button and make conscious choices about how you want to live.

Phase 1: Reset (Days 1–30)

The first 30 days are not about chasing success or trying to “bounce back.” They’re about creating internal stability. When your world feels like it’s collapsed, the most powerful thing you can do is slow down, reflect, and reset from within.

This phase helps you rebuild your emotional footing with clarity, mindset shifts, and intentional self-reflection. You are laying the psychological foundation for everything that comes next.

1. Acknowledge What You’ve Lost

Before you can move forward, you need to be honest about what’s gone. It’s not just a job, relationship, or financial loss. It may be your confidence, your motivation, or your peace of mind. These invisible losses matter just as much.

Give yourself permission to feel grief, confusion, or even anger. Naming emotions is often the first step toward healing. This is where true self-examination begins.

Ask yourself:

What part of my life feels most shaken?
What emotions am I avoiding?
What beliefs about myself feel broken or challenged?

You can’t rebuild from denial. Start with truth. This is where the courage to change begins.

2. Reconnect with Your Core Values

When everything external falls apart, your core values become your compass. They remind you what still matters and help you make grounded choices—even when you feel lost.

If you’re not sure where to begin, take the free quiz to identify your top values. Then choose one and live it each day, in a small but deliberate way.

For example:

If “growth” is a value, read 2 pages of a book each night
If “honesty” matters, have one real conversation this week

You might notice areas of misalignment between your current life and what you truly value. This awareness helps you gently begin the process of unlearning patterns that no longer serve you and building a stronger value system in their place.

This daily practice isn't about perfection—it’s about building internal structure, one grounded choice at a time.

3. Shift to a Growth Mindset

Right now, it might feel like things will never improve. But they can—and your brain is built to adapt.

New neural pathways form in as little as 8 to 12 weeks through intentional thought and behavior. That’s the science behind a growth mindset—the belief that you can change, even from rock bottom.

Start small. Replace negative thoughts like “I’m stuck” with “This is where I begin.” Use reminders and mantras to interrupt discouraging patterns.

“This is not the end of my story. This is my turning point.”

This shift isn’t about pretending things are fine. It’s about giving yourself the encouragement to take one step at a time.

4. Practice Journaling for Mental Clarity

Journaling is one of the most accessible tools for regaining emotional balance. It clears your head, helps you notice recurring thoughts, and gives you a safe space to reflect and observe.

Try this simple daily format:

I feel…
I need…
I’m grateful for…

Take inspiration from this list Top 75 Things to Be Grateful For Now

5. Focus on Emotional Self-Care

You don’t need to overhaul your life in these first 30 days. What you need is consistent, low-pressure emotional support.

Build emotional routines that include:

A short daily walk or movement
Listening to calming music or prayer
Limiting inputs that drain you (toxic media, critical voices)

This isn’t about productivity. It’s about restoring safety and creating space to breathe, feel, and begin again.

Phase 2: Rebuild (Days 31–60)

This is where momentum begins. In the second month, your focus shifts from healing to intentional rebuilding. You’ll begin crafting new habits, setting meaningful goals, and reshaping how you see yourself—not based on who you were, but who you are becoming.

1. Set Simple, Purpose-Driven Goals

When you’ve lost everything, goal-setting can feel pointless or overwhelming. But the right kind of goals—small, purpose-aligned, and flexible—can restore your sense of agency.

Start with this:

What’s one area of my life I’d like to improve first?
What would a small win in that area look like?

These are your small achievable goals. Instead of “get in shape,” try “go for a 10-minute walk each morning.” Instead of “fix my finances,” try “track my spending for 3 days.”

2. Start a Passion Project or Hobby

Rebuilding your life isn’t just about responsibilities—it’s about reclaiming joy, creativity, and a sense of personal freedom.

Ask yourself:

What have I always wanted to try but never did?
What activity makes me lose track of time?

Whether it’s gardening, writing, learning guitar, or taking online classes, choosing one passion project creates space for curiosity and healing.

This isn’t a luxury. It’s an act of self-respect.

3. Build Keystone Habits

Now is the time to create habits that support your emotional and physical stability. You don’t need 20 new routines. Just focus on 2–3 keystone habits—those that trigger a positive chain reaction in other areas of life.

Powerful options include:

Morning stretching or walking
Journaling before bed
Eating one nourishing meal daily
Turning off screens one hour before sleep

To track your progress, try the Moore Momentum Weekly Habit Tracker App. It gamifies your effort, helps with consistency, and gives you a visual win each week.

4. Redefine Identity Through Action

By now, you may begin to feel a shift. Your new routines and goals aren’t just actions—they’re reshaping your identity.

Every small decision reinforces the message: I’m no longer stuck—I’m rebuilding.

You don’t need a perfect routine. You just need consistent movement in a direction that honors your values, your healing, and your future self.

Phase 3: Rise (Days 61–90)

By the time you reach this final phase, you’ve laid the emotional groundwork, created small wins, and begun reshaping your identity. Now it’s time to rise—sustain your momentum, expand your progress, and plan for long-term stability and joy.

This is where temporary effort becomes lasting change.

1. Reflect and Adjust

Growth isn’t linear. Pause and review the last 60 days. What habits are working? What needs adjustment? Set aside time each week for self-reflection questions using these prompts:

What gave me energy this week?
What drained me?
What would I like to improve next week?

2. Strengthen Your Support System

You don’t have to do this alone. In fact, long-term transformation almost always involves a support network.

Now is the time to:

Reconnect with mutual relationships that uplift you
Set clear boundaries with draining people
Seek out mentors, coaches, or online communities that reflect who you’re becoming

Spending more quality family time or forming new connections can help reinforce your healing and forward movement.

3. Reinforce Long-Term Habits

Rebuilding your life after losing everything isn’t a one-time challenge. It’s a lifelong commitment to living with intention. To maintain your momentum:

Revisit your personal core values every 30 days
Adjust your routine based on new goals or needs
Celebrate progress with meaningful rewards—not just outcomes, but consistency

You’ve built a structure. Now it’s about sustainable habits.

If you’ve been using our Habit Tracker App, keep going. You can now begin creating new “habit stacks” around energy, relationships, finances, or creativity based on what matters most to you.

4. Stay Rooted in Meaning

Finally, come back to purpose. What does it mean to live an intentional life? What kind of impact do you want to create with your new foundation?

This is where self-actualization begins. Not perfection, but presence. Not hustle, but alignment.

You are not the same person who started this journey—and that’s the point.

Conclusion: You Are the Change

If you’ve made it this far, you already understand one thing—this wasn’t just about “fixing” your life. It was about creating a new one, brick by brick, from the inside out.

You’ve learned how to rebuild your life after losing everything, but this is also a roadmap for anyone seeking change, healing, or transformation.

Whether you're starting over after trauma, grief, or years of feeling stuck, you’ve proven that rebuilding is possible with a plan rooted in clarity, courage, and consistency. Your journey forward doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be yours.

You are not starting from scratch. You are starting from experience. Now is your moment.

You’ve Made It Through 90 Days—Now What?

If you’ve followed the steps in this guide, you’ve already done something extraordinary. You didn’t just survive. You showed up. You reflected, healed, created new habits, and made space for something better. That alone makes you stronger than most people will ever understand.

But your story doesn’t stop at Day 90. Rebuilding your life after losing everything is not a finish line—it’s a new foundation. And from here, you get to build with intention, purpose, and momentum.

Here’s how to keep going:

Keep tracking your habits with the Moore Momentum Habit Tracker
Check in with your values every month using the Core Values Quiz

If you’re reading this and still feel uncertain, that’s okay. Keep this guide bookmarked. Come back to it when you’re ready. Healing isn’t linear, but rebuilding is possible—for you, too. You haven’t lost everything. You’re in the process of creating something entirely new.

Frequently Asked Questions

What Does Adopting the Right Mindset Look Like?

Rebuilding your life starts in your mind. A growth mindset helps you believe that change is possible, even from your lowest point. It encourages positive self-talk, open-mindedness, and daily encouragement.

These mindset shifts build optimism and lay the groundwork for long-term transformation.

How Can You Build a Support System That Actually Supports You?

You need people who reflect the future you’re working toward. That’s where a support network becomes essential.

Build relationships with:

Mutual relationships
Trusted mentors
Professional guidance when needed

Reinvest in quality family time, nurture deeper connections, and surround yourself with supportive relationships that respect your value system.

Why Are Sustainable Habits More Powerful Than Motivation?

Willpower fades. But daily habits, routines, and small choices build identity.

Anchor your transformation using:

Atomic Habits
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Regular constructive feedback or coaching

Sustainable action helps you grow confidence and live with intentionality, rooted in values-based living.

What Does It Mean to Redefine Your Identity?

Major life transitions call for a new sense of self. Through courageous contemplation, letting go, and perspective shifts, you’ll step into a truer version of yourself.

With every step, you develop resilience, reconnect with your identity, and move toward self-actualization.

How Do You Find Purpose and Meaning Again?

Start by asking better questions. Then rediscover your life's purpose by choosing work and relationships that reflect your intentional life.

Build a passion project, explore virtual coaching, and focus on reclaiming a piece of yourself.

What Role Does Health and Well-Being Play?

Rebuilding requires energy, which comes from your mental health, healing journey, and how you care for your body.

Use:

Healthy eating
Mindful movement
Wellness tips, including self-compassion and plant-based living

These habits nurture your mental space and allow healing from the inside out.

How Can You Maintain Progress Without Burning Out?

Use whole person assessments to check in on your progress. Reflect using journaling, note reflection points, and reward consistency, not just results.

Work with a coach to maintain intentions, set measurable goals, and stay focused on self-improvement and personal growth.

How Do You Clarify Core Values and Unlearn What Holds You Back?

Clarity begins with reflection. Identify old beliefs, negative thoughts, and patterns of misalignment.

Begin unlearning what no longer fits, and use the Core Values Quiz to rebuild a strong value system rooted in who you are now—not who you used to be.

How to Rebuild Your Life After the Death of a Spouse?

Losing a spouse changes everything—your routine, your identity, and your long-term vision. Begin by acknowledging your grief without rushing your healing journey. This isn’t something to “get over,” but a chapter to walk through with self-compassion.

Incorporate journaling to process emotions and regain clarity. Surround yourself with a support system that includes supportive relationships and quality family time. Rebuilding doesn’t mean forgetting—it means reclaiming joy one moment at a time.

How to Rebuild Your Life After Trauma?

Trauma leaves deep emotional imprints. Healing starts with naming your experience and finding professional guidance when needed. Focus on safety first—create daily habits that offer stability.

This could include:

Morning walks for grounding
Journaling to clarify thoughts
Setting boundaries for emotional safety

Use intentionality and resilience to guide you as you slowly reconnect with a new sense of identity.

How to Rebuild Your Life After Losing Everything?

When everything collapses—your career, your relationships, your confidence—it’s time to focus on the inner work. Begin with a growth mindset. You don’t have to fix it all at once.

Instead:

Establish core values
Build keystone habits
Surround yourself with a community of supportive individuals

Rebuilding from rock bottom is possible when guided by clarity and consistent, value-driven action.

How to Rebuild Your Life from Nothing?

Even if you’ve lost everything—home, finances, support—starting from nothing doesn’t mean staying stuck. Begin by rebuilding identity through routine and one small achievable goal at a time.

Use resources like:

The 90-Day Transformation Toolkit
Habit stacking techniques from Atomic Habits
Virtual coaching for accountability

You’re not rebuilding the old you—you’re becoming someone stronger.

How to Change Your Life?

Change doesn’t happen all at once—it begins with one decision. Ask yourself: “What’s one thing I can improve today?” Then, repeat that improvement until it becomes your new normal.

Focus on:

Building intentional life
Practicing positive self-talk
Creating a system of reward

Transformation is not an event. It’s a lifestyle.

What Does Starting Over Look Like?

Starting over is not about pretending the past didn’t happen—it’s about letting go and redefining your identity. This includes:

Perspective shifts
Making new connections
Committing to your passion project

You’re not starting from scratch—you’re starting from experience.

Related Article: How to Start Over in Life

Are There Signs That Life Changes Are Working?

Yes. As you rebuild, you’ll start to feel:

Increased mental space
More energy and confidence
Stronger alignment with your values
More natural emotional regulation and resilience

You’ll also find that daily routines become easier and more energizing instead of draining.