“Walk This Way” to Avoid Victim Culture and Develop a Growth-owner Mindset
Aug 16, 2023
In this world, there are pairs that just seem meant for each other. Think about it. What about the decadent, rich taste of chocolate with the refreshingly sweet essence of strawberry?
Maybe the addition of salt and pepper to flavor a dish. The silly cat, Tom, relentlessly chases after the cunning mouse, Jerry. A cold drink of water on a blistering summer’s day.
How about the legendary band Aerosmith and the hip-hop group Run DMC?
Well, well, well, friends, have I got a story for you. If you don’t know much about the Aerosmith and Run DMC combination on the song “Walk This Way,” prepare to be astounded.
To get the full picture, we need to go wayyyyy back... Back to the Future.
A match made in heaven? Not even close. But soon, everything was going to change.
A Blast To The Past
The story begins sometime around 1986. As a band, Aerosmith had dipped their toes in the pool of popular demand, but they weren’t even close to the top of the rock food chain. While they did have a fan base, it began to dwindle as time went on. As did their mental and physical health as a result of drug addiction, just like the BeeGees.
Why was that? Because, as a group, they gave in to victim culture. Instead of taking action, they stayed in a failure loop that resulted in a decrease in fans and happiness.
But what’s this? Around the same time, a new kid was breaking into the music scene: hip-hop. While hip-hop was still finding its way in the industry and wasn’t as large as pop music from artists like Madonna and Whitney Houston, it was really starting to make an impact.
And if things couldn’t get any worse for the steadily aging Aerosmith, music videos were also the new fad. MTV took music and kicked it up a notch by creating cool music videos that really spoke to the popular crowd. Who could resist stunning performances like “Thriller” by Michael Jackson? This made it pretty simple for Aerosmith to slide into victim culture.
Suddenly, being a popular musician meant having to create video productions of quality. They had to contend with acting, big costumes and wigs, and enough money to make it look good. In this case, video really did kill the radio star.
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Aerosmith was struggling to push their way back to glory and Run DMC were the new kids on the scene looking to make a name for themselves. So, how did a drug-ravaged rock band that had fallen prey to victim culture and a hip-hop band even stand a chance of releasing a chart-topping hit in 1986?
The answer? Teaming up.
This is hillbilly gibberish ... Country bumpkin bullshit! - Run
Sounds like a great match, right? Well, it wasn’t at first. Sadly, this isn’t a Tom meets Jerry type tale (unless you count the fighting). The two groups had a hard time with the concept and gave in quickly to victim culture.
Despite that, they eventually made something extraordinary. No one else could see it in 1986, but producer Rick Rubin did. He knew that even though hip-hop wasn’t fully mainstream and the two bands were very distinct, there was something great there just waiting to break free.
But How Did He Do It?
Rubin was the only one capable of seeing past victim culture because he had a little thing called a growth-owner mindset.
This is what allowed him to pursue the goal of uniting these bands to create a hit even though everything seemed to point against it. He wouldn’t allow anything to stop him from reaching his dreams or accomplishing goals.
Sure, Run DMC and Aerosmith weren’t an obvious combination, but Rubin knew there could be wonder and sensation so he wouldn’t stop until he did what he could. He could’ve sat down and given up because the world told him it wouldn’t work, but instead of giving in to victim culture (like Aerosmith did), he decided to be proactive.
He was able to look at Aerosmith: a decaying band full of “country bumpkin bullshit,” and Run DMC: A cool new hip-hop band lacking a big audience to make something amazing.
He bridged the gap between two completely separate music genres to create something that remains popular today (and hopefully forever).
But of course, the bands themselves weren’t as enthusiastic about the collaboration as Rubin. On top of giving in to victim culture, Aerosmith thought they were way too ingrained in the music industry to work with newcomers, and Run DMC couldn’t grasp how the combination would work at all.
You know who pushed through the victim culture to make it work anyways?
You guessed it, Rick Rubin! With his growth-owner mindset he trampled all the naysayers and problems in his path to create a big hit. Sure, the bands still weren’t exactly overjoyed, but Rubin got them to parley for 2 days of recording what would soon become one of the biggest hits of all time.
What came from it was a timelessly captivating masterpiece.
While Run DMC didn’t necessarily want to be known for lyrics such as:
So I took a big chance at the high school dance
With a lady who was ready to play
Wasn't me she was foolin'
'cause she knew what she was doin'
When she told me how to walk this wayyyyy
These words were what inevitably brought both bands to the top of the charts. In a world where hip-hop had barely begun to break the surface, this was legendary.
By following Rubin’s instinct, they managed to crack the music industry into bits by creating something completely new. Run DMC went from obscurity to popularity with one song. They were finally established as musicians.
Not only that, but Aerosmith also broke away from victim culture and went to the top in the eyes of the masses. They were no longer boring relics of the past; they were the bright stars of the future.
Something every cool guy or gal had to be a fan of. They had been freed from victim culture and landed themselves in a thrilling success loop. It continued with time as they produced multi-platinum records like Permanent Vacation and Nine Lives.
The Lesson: Don’t Fall Prey to Victim Culture
It’s hard to know a flower will be beautiful before it blooms, though we typically think, “Well, obviously, it was gonna be a good one.”
Is it possible for us to remember these instances and build up momentum in order to act, and if so, how?
You’ll need to Walk this Way, much like Rick Rubin did. Rather than giving in to the victim culture around him, he reevaluated what was going on in the music industry and found something new. That new thing was a flower about to bloom (a flower worth 10k, that is).
He karate-kicked the victim culture that doubted his ability to make it happen and said it wasn’t worth it and could never work.
Instead, he used his growth-owner mindset to expel that nonsense and say, “I’m going to make something great no matter what stands in my way. Nothing will stop me.” And so can you.
Do you feel like you’re living in a robotic routine day after day, following in the steps of society? Do you purposely stand on the sidelines rather than step out into the sun?
As human beings raised in a society, we often feel like we must follow the actions of others rather than be unique. We don’t always want to take risks because we fear breaking the mold. Yet, it is the bravery and brilliance that breaking through victim culture and failure loops takes that creates a growth owner.
While Rick Rubin was the one who put coals in the fire of the Aerosmith/Run DMC crossover, both bands continued to stoke the growth-owning fire that he started.
Because of the hit song, they could continue their illustrious music careers despite the victim culture around them. They learned from Rubin that they needed a bit of positive momentum.
What about you?
It’s always hard to take a risk. It always is, but in order to break your failure habits, you must pick at the wall of your failures with an ax until it crumbles around you. Even when you don’t succeed at first, you must try until you’ve gotten where you’ve always dreamed of being.
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Rising Above Victim Culture: Embracing Dignity Culture to Level Up Your Life
In today's world, we find ourselves amidst various cultural clashes, with victimhood culture and dignity cultures often at odds in the so-called culture wars. But just as Rick Rubin defied the odds with the collaboration between Aerosmith and Run DMC, we too can break free from victim culture and develop a growth-owner mindset to reach our full potential.
In modern Western societies, dignity cultures prescribe direct and non-violent actions to address conflicts, valuing respect and honor above all. However, the rise of victimhood culture has brought about intolerable conflicts, as grievances and microaggressions are frequently publicized, often leading to divisive outcomes.
To level up our lives, we must learn from Rubin's perseverance and determination. We need to embrace the principles of dignity culture, where we rise above competitive victimhood and focus on personal growth and success.
Breaking away from victim culture requires courage and resilience, just like the two bands did when they ventured into uncharted territory. We must recognize that failure is part of the process, and rather than succumbing to failure loops, we should view failures as opportunities to gamify life.
So, as you walk this way towards your dreams, remember to adopt a growth-owner mindset and foster a dignity culture in your life. Embrace the bravery and brilliance required to overcome obstacles and build momentum toward a fulfilling and purposeful existence.
Final Thoughts - Victim Culture
In a world filled with cultural clashes, it's essential to learn from the example set by the unlikely collaboration of Aerosmith and Run DMC. Their journey from victim culture to a growth-owner mindset highlights the power of perseverance and the potential for greatness when we break away from societal norms.
Just as Rick Rubin bridged the gap between two distinct music genres, we, too, can bridge the gap in our lives and reach new heights of happiness and fulfilment. By nurturing a growth-owner mindset, we can transcend the limitations imposed by the new culture wars and find our own path to success.
Sociologists Bradley Campbell emphasizes the importance of understanding honor cultures and how they relate to victimhood culture. By recognizing the complexities at play, we can navigate these clashes with a greater understanding of the offender's moral status and strive to create a society that fosters growth, empathy, and unity.
So, as you walk this way towards your dreams, remember to break free from victim culture, embrace dignity culture, and embrace the bravery and brilliance required to overcome obstacles.
So, Do You Want To Walk This Way?
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