How to build Success Habits?
"First we make our habits, then our habits make us"
- Author Unknown
The Science of Habit?
Habits are what we use to try to solve a perceived problem. When we encounter a new situation our brain has to make a decision (solve the problem) and is rewarded when it does. We remember this next time, and the more times we take the action the more our neuron connections strengthen - Hence the saying "neurons that fire together wire together"
These neural pathways form deep grooves that make it easy for your brain to say "got that one, don't have to think about it anymore" which frees up energy to work on other tasks. Ex's of habits include starting your car, brushing your teeth, and grabbing your phone.
Despite what some "experts" might claim, there's no magic amount of time it takes to form a habit. Some habits can be formed in a matter of days, others can take months - it all depends on the complexity of the behavior and the unique relationship of the habit and the person.
Habit formation is made up of four stages: 1) Cue (noticing the reward), 2) Craving (wanting the reward), 3) Response (obtaining the reward), and 4) Reward (temporarily satisfy us and we learn from).
It's all an endless feedback loop driving the majority of our thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Why Failure Habits Are So Easy To Build
By the time we reach adulthood, even though we barely notice habits, they run our lives and ultimately determine how happy we are. Habits can be 1) Neutral - turning on your car, 2) Good - brushing your teeth (success habit) , or 3) Bad - grabbing your phone when bored (failure habit).
Unfortunately, failure habits are the easiest to form because they are always looking for the path of least resistance so as to conserve energy - a survival instinct from our paleolithic days that kept us being eaten by a Sabre Toothed Tiger.
And in an on-demand world filled with an ever increasing supply of low hanging fruit, it's become far too easy to sit on the couch all day, multi-screen, and binge on Cheetos vs taking the actions that ACTUALLY make us happy.
Gamify Your Habits to Level Up Your Life
"Excellence is not an act, but a habit" - Aristotle
Good news is that habits don't care if they're good or bad, helping or hurting you - either way they'll compound over time to form who you are via "My Equation Of Life".
The key is to develop a system that makes it fun and addictive to REPLACE your failure habits with success habits. To use that same science and tech currently being used to monetize your attention to instead make you WANT to take the actions that will momentify your happiness.
Wouldn't it be cool if improving your confidence, relationships, and bank account was as fun as playing your favorite game, and as automatic as waking up in the morning?
How Happy are You?
How are your current habits slowing or increasing your momentum in all five cores? Take the Happiness Quiz!
Discipline equals happiness. The insta-society we now live in is making it exponentially easier for humans to violate this universal principle. We can now satisfy our dopamine cravings with the click of a button.
But the more we press that button, the less willing we are to take real life action on what ACTUALLY makes us happy.
- Will Moore