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Why is it Important to Connect with People to Build Deep Connection?

Jun 13, 2023

By Will Moore

Last weekend I challenged myself to see how far I could proactively push myself as a growth owner to connect with people. I made a pact to proactively introduce myself and start meaningful conversations with people and try to develop deep connection.

What is a Deep Connection?

In a deep connection, people feel seen, heard, and valued by each other. There is a sense of empathy and compassion, which allows individuals to truly understand and connect with each other's emotions and experiences.

This connection can occur in different types of relationships, like friendships, romantic partnerships, or even professional relationships. These deep connections are important for your emotional well being and can ultimately help you to gamify your life.

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A deeper social connection often involves open and honest communication, vulnerability, and a willingness to share one's authentic self. It requires both parties to actively engage in the relationship, invest time and effort, and be willing to explore and understand each other's point of views and inner worlds.

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People may look for deep connection because they provide a sense of belonging, fulfillment, and support. They foster a safe space where individuals can express themselves without fear of judgment or rejection.

Deep connection can also contribute to personal growth and development as they allow individuals to learn from each other, challenge their own beliefs, identify their core values, and expand their perspectives.

Deep Connection - Why It Matters to Connect With People?

Not just sharing where you are from and what you do; I'm talking about real and deep connection where we get to the heart of what drives people forward in life. I also challenged myself to approach the speakers I most connected with.

The importance of strong connection with others is more apparent since the COVID-19 pandemic. They are important for our understanding of vulnerability, to receive assistance if needed and to support our friends and colleagues.

Creating strong relationships will help you to create meaningful relationships. It is important for people to learn how to feel close and connect with people in a positive manner so that it is much easier. Getting a good healthy relationship is essential.

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Ray Dalio is the author of an amazing series of books titled “Principles.” I saw him outside the theater during the event and went for it.

I told him some small talk about how our missions are in sync and how I want to help him build out that mission of helping people become the best versions of themselves. I gave him my card, looked him dead in the eye, and said, “I look forward to working with you to make the world a better place.”

If your goal is to connect with people on a deeper level, the questions you ask will decide the course of the conversation.

When trying to make a lasting personal connection, the introduction is key. Make deep connection by stepping out of your comfort zone.

Want to Build Deep Connection? Start with Yourself First

We're all deeply connected. This is a reason why we had a chance at one time to cooperate in the most difficult situations. Although the survival threats to human life are much lesser today, people do want connections.

Research has shown that the interaction of people with one another improves both psychological and physical wellbeing. We all want to feel as though we have a connection. This requires learning how to process thoughts.

The key is to understand yourself as an individual before you have a deep connection with anyone else. Tell us the reason.

How to build a Deeper Connection?

We all want to feel seen, heard, and understood. We want to feel like we matter and that our experiences count. This desire for connection is what motivates us to reach out to others and build deep connections and relationships. But sometimes, it cannot be easy to connect with people and establish deep, meaningful connections with the people in our lives.

Whether it's because we're too busy, too shy, or simply don't know how to open up, it's easy to fall into the trap of surface-level social interactions.

If you're looking to connect with people and want to find out how to build deep connection with the people in your life then here are a few things you can do:

1. Make time for quality conversation.

In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle and let our relationships suffer as a result.

If you want to make deeper connections, it's important to make time for quality time and conversation with your partner or people who matter to you. This means putting away your phones, setting aside distractions, and really listening to what the other person has to say.

2. Be vulnerable.

It can be scary to open up and share your deepest thoughts, dreams and feelings with another person, but it's important to remember that vulnerability is a key component of any relationship.

When you're able to be honest, and authentic with someone, you're allowing them to spend time, to really know and understand you. And that's how deep connections are made. It also helps you to connect with people at a different level.

Show interest in their life. People love to talk about themselves, so one of the best ways to connect deeply with someone is to show a genuine interest in their life.

Ask them questions, listen attentively, and follow up on things they've said in previous conversations. This will let them feel comfortable and know that you care about them and their experiences.

3. Avoid judgment.

We all have different perspectives and opinions, but it's important to remember that when we're trying to make a deep connection with someone, judgment should be left at the door. Instead of looking at things from your point of view, try to see things from their perspective. This will help you get to know and understand them better and make a stronger connection.

4. Be present.

To make deeper connections, it's important to be present at the moment. This means fully focusing on the person you're talking to and engaging in the conversation. We all know life is unpredictable. Therefore, put away your distractions and give the other person your undivided attention. This will show them that you're truly interested in what they have to say.

Making deeper, more authentic connections takes time, effort, and practice. But it's so worth it. When you're able to connect with someone on a deeper level, you'll both benefit from a more meaningful, lasting, worthy, and deeper relationship.

The Role of Deep Connections in Escaping Toxic Relationships:

Deep connections play a crucial role in recognizing and healing from a toxic relationships. When you cultivate deep, meaningful relationships, you establish a benchmark for how you should be treated and what healthy interactions look like. These relationships are characterized by empathy, respect, and a mutual understanding, setting a standard that makes the negative aspects of toxic relationships more apparent. In a deep connection, there is a genuine exchange of thoughts and emotions, fostering an environment where you feel valued and heard. This contrast can be eye-opening, highlighting the disparities between a healthy and a toxic relationship.

Moreover, deep connections provide a support system that is essential when navigating the complexities of leaving a toxic relationship. They offer emotional support, perspective, and encouragement, making it easier to take the necessary steps towards change. These connections also help rebuild the self-esteem and confidence that is often eroded in toxic relationships, empowering you to make decisions that are in your best interest. By surrounding yourself with people who genuinely care for and understand you, you are reminded of your worth and the importance of being in relationships that are nurturing and positive. Thus, deep connections not only serve as a refuge but also as a catalyst for the strength and resilience needed to break free from the shackles of toxicity.

Here are the Points I used while pushing myself at the summit:

  1. What makes you want to spring out of bed?

  2. If you didn't sleep, how would you spend the extra time?

  3. What's something I should know about you?

  4. If you could do anything in the world right now (with no limitations), what would it be?

  5. If you could know the absolute truth to a question, what would it be?

  6. What have you failed spectacularly at recently, and what did you learn?

  7. I challenge you to pick one of these and use it to build a deep connection this week. Bonus points if you talk to someone you're scared to approach.

Let me know how it goes!


Will Moore is a gamification, habits and happiness expert.

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