WILL Moore

Is Your Perception Sabotaging Your Chances To Become A Sexy Millionaire?
Is Your Perception Sabotaging Your Chances To Become A Sexy Millionaire?
You’ve Got All the Power. Just Do What The Bee Gees Did, Then Didn’t, Then Did again.

Aww Sooky Sooky. Just finished watching the Bee Gees HBO documentary and let me tell you, I’m diggin what they were throwin down. It was out of sight, totally groovy man.

 

My 70s slang aside, I am so glad I finally watched it and I highly recommend it not only for the sheer thrill of being transported back to the disco era in glorious fashion, but maybe you’ll learn a thing or two about yourself as you watch with the help of this article.

Here’s the skinny. If I’m dating myself by assuming you know who the Bee Gees are, here’s all you need to know about the brothers:

Got it! Oh, and they sang a flurry of chart topping hits you DEFINITELY know and can sing along to: Stayin’ Alive, Night Fever, You Should Be Dancing, and many more. Got it jive turkey? Oh ya, I forgot aboutJive Talkin’

The Momentum Ride of a Lifetime

Their journey was a true nerve testing roller-coaster – not to be confused with the hit song “Love Rollercoaster” from that same era. The Gibb boys followed in the footsteps of their idols, the Beatles, coming out of England to take the world by storm in their teens, but then they became nearly irrelevant, only to shoot to mega stardom years later in 1977 with the soundtrack from the movie “Saturday Night Fever” – solidifying their status as the kings of disco. Something that would later come to bite them in their silky gold pants suits (but I’ll leave out the spoilers).

 

Those Gibb brothers experienced as big a momentum ride as a human can take. Soaring up, up up into the big, bold, beautiful sky, then falling down, down, down back to earth. Then up, up up … well, you get the idea. And throughout the documentary it became crystal clear what failure habits led to their initial demise (hint one of them rhymes with plugs), and what success habits allowed them to stage their epic comeback.

 
Perception Is As Perception Does
The very first scene in the documentary starts with a wide shot of a stunning Miami mega-compound slowly panning towards the silhouette of a sullen figure. Enter the voiceover “I am beginning to recognize the fact that nothing is true, It’s all down to perception.” Barry Gibb, the oldest and arguably most popular Bee Gee who was able to hit those legendary high notes (masterfully imitated by Jimmy Fallon in this Saturday Night Live Sketch), is revealed. I know I’m in for a good one.
“I am beginning to recognize the fact that nothing is true, It’s all down to perception.”

Let that sink in for a groovy sec. This one, my friends, is the difference between living a happy, prosperous, soul-filled life or … a pretty crappy one.

 

Without giving away too many spoilers, as we move through the history of these seemingly lucky, then cursed, then lucky again brothers’ lives, it becomes crystal clear what Barry meant. All that fame, money, and power and this poor guy hardly enjoyed any of it.

The Tale Of Two Mindsets

Why did he suffer instead of bask in the glow of what should have been one of the best lives anyone has ever lived (I mean look at that hair)? He was consumed with a fixed-victim mindset that had him convinced that he was cursed, the world was out to get him, and there was nothing he could do about it. His entire reality was being seen through this lens which crushingly skewed every single moment he had during that time.

 

It’s only now that he realizes what life might have looked like through a growth-owner’s eyes. That higher self we all have the opportunity to tap into and tell ourselves:

“Listen up and listen good. I know I’ve got everything within me to kick ass and take names, I’m going to fail forward learning and growing every step of the way, and obstacles are temporary roadblocks waiting for solutions. Fear, meh, I’ll give it the finger because I know it’s merely an opportunity to help me become the bigger, better, faster, stronger, version of myself.”

Do You Have A Fixed-Victim Or A Growth-Owner Mindset?

What lens are you looking through life with and how has that lens affected where you currently stand today? Where you live, what you do for a living, what direction and with how much velocity you’re headed there with?

 

Which mindset do you think will create positive momentum moving forward? Which will momentify your life so that rather than constantly searching for happiness, happiness gravitates toward you like a moth to a flame – or a Bee Gee to a sequins pant suit.

Learn from Barry, the last remaining Bee Gee (shoot, I did it again, I’m terrible with spoilers) who wishes he could do it all over again. Someone who, on the surface would have been the envy of anyone, but who’s mindset framed that period of his life in mostly misery and pain.

How To Get Your Perception To Make 2021 Your B!#@h

Sadly, the tale of Barry Gibb and the rest of the Bee Gees is not uncommon for celebrities. In fact, they are much more likely to suffer the type of existence that makes for a great HBO documentary, or my fav from back in the day, “VH1’s Behind The Music.” So what shot do little ol’ you have?

 

Ironically, a better one.

 

You don’t have the enormous distractions and temptations that come with having an angel’s voice, golden locks, and a furry chest. So let’s get to work.

 

There are several life-hacks I have to trick your dog-brain into working FOR instead of against you, and they all revolve around your habits. Your habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, working for or against you – in the end they’re going to compound and form who you are either way.

 

The more action you take based on what a growth-owner would do, the more you’ll slowly start to feel and experience the life you’re fully capable of having.

 

A top one of these actions is to write down a list of your top 3 fears. I’m serious, you can’t just think of them. Writing has a magical effect on making things real so that we have to pay attention to them.

 

Next, make a commitment to yourself in the next week to tackle one of these fears head on NO MATTER WHAT. Start small, but keep your promise to yourself and you’ll be on your way to stepping out of your “failure loop” and into your “success loop.” Growth-owner launch initiated!

 
 

Since we’re still at the start of the year, you’ve got plenty of time to make 2021 your B!#@h. Like another one of my favs from back in the day, this one from the 80’s hit “The Goonies” that I just watched with my son this weekend, it’s YOUR TIME. “Our Time” Goonies Clip!

If you need help, DM me. I love rapping one on one with people who are serious about owning their happiness.

 

Peace, love and granola.

Are Failure Habits Crushing Your Happiness?
Are Failure Habits Crushing Your Happiness?

A failure habit is something you do, repeatedly, that sabotages your happiness, health and/or success. We all have them and they’re ingrained into the woodwork of our lives, like termites eating away at the foundation of our happiness. I often talk about how turning failure habits to success habits is a game changer. Habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, helping or hurting us – they do their thing and make a huge impact on our lives either way.

So why not make habits work FOR instead of against you? Changing a failure habit to a success habit takes an accountability system, persistence, and time. Your brain will fight like heck to hold onto that failure habit that’s dug its claws in deep, but the good news is that once you get over that front loaded hump, your newly replaced success habit will be equally hard to break – automatically building momentum for you in the background without having to think about it 🙂

My Top Failure Habit From 2020 And How I’ll Replace It With A Success Habit

The biggest habit that slowed my momentum in 2020 can be found in my emotional health core. I’m a dweller. I’ve always been one, have worked on it and gotten way better, but this year I regressed a bit and let my old failure habit of giving things I had no control over way too much time and attention.

 

Selling my business in 2019 led to a half cash, half stock purchase which had me breaking out into cold sweats every time it would move a couple percentage points. We had a six month hold on the stock where we couldn’t sell it, and in this time I watched it go from $10/share to around $.30. I got caught up in the common trap of worrying constantly about if the stock would recover, and wasted countless hours stressing, adding wrinkles, and losing years off my life only to see it start to bounce back.

 

It’s not back to where it was, but is headed in the right direction, and my first 2021 commitment to myself is to only check it 1X/week since I’m not planning on selling it anyways. Eventually I want to get to 1X/mth and even 1X/year! But baby steps 🙂

Another major area I dwelled on in 2020 was my son’s development. He’s about to turn five, and even though I KNOW comparing him to other kids is just asking for trouble, I found myself doing it. I stopped catching myself in the act like I used to which allowed my brain to start running wildy with irrational theories of why he was behind in certain areas. I found myself falling victim to my fixed-victim self who predicted a bleak future as if my growth-owner self had no say in how the story would end.

 

My commitment in 2021 is to catch myself feeling sorry for Wyatt or myself and replace that feeling with an action to ensure he becomes the absolute best version of himself. I vow to focus on helping him focus on HIS strengths and exploring HIS passions vs dwelling on what it would look like if he had other strengths and passions – stemming from a preconceived notion I developed along the way of what a 4.5 year old should be.

 

One of the actions I committed to taking with my son has already paid off. I started researching ways to help him build his awareness and impulse control, and found a few games that could help him with it: “The Marshmallow Game” and “Red Light Green Light.” The marshmallow game where I give him a marshmallow and tell him I’ll be back in a minute and that if he doesn’t eat it will get another one has been a huge success! He had more impulse control than I thought, and my encouragement when he didn’t eat the initial marshmallow and continually reminding him of how proud I was of his self-control has paid off in noticeable changes in his impulsive behavior.

 

Next game on tap to help gamify Wyatt’s momentum, which he’s already been asking to play, “Red Light Green Light!”

 

Watch out 2021, I’m comin’ for ya!

 
How Can You Turn Your Failure Habits to Success Habits?

First step is to become aware of the biggest momentum killers for you in 2020. Make a list of the top habits that either did the most damage and/or you know will compound to do the most damage in the future. Don’t overthink it, just write them down, and after if you can categorize them into their corresponding core, do so.

 

Next step is prioritize the failure habits that you see would be the biggest game chargers were you able to replace them with success habits. What is #1, and what’s the action you need to take to replace it with its success habit counterpart? Make a commitment to take that action every single day until that pesky habit that’s dug in deep is swatted away and replaced with a little mini rocket automatically propelling you forward each day.

Gamify it by using technology to help remind or encourage you each day, and try giving yourself both short and long term rewards when you succeed. I.e. you reward yourself with taking a half day if you go a whole week without breaking your commitment to yourself, and you treat yourself to a new phone when you feel the habit is in full remission and the success habit is picking up speed daily.

 

In no time you’ll have the success habits you need to kick a$ and take names in 2021!

Let’s gooooooo!

Emotional Health:

Minimizing stressors, proactively incorporating your passions regularly, and making sure the world is better, not worse, for having you in it.