WILL Moore

Are Failure Habits Crushing Your Happiness?
Are Failure Habits Crushing Your Happiness?

A failure habit is something you do, repeatedly, that sabotages your happiness, health and/or success. We all have them and they’re ingrained into the woodwork of our lives, like termites eating away at the foundation of our happiness. I often talk about how turning failure habits to success habits is a game changer. Habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, helping or hurting us – they do their thing and make a huge impact on our lives either way.

So why not make habits work FOR instead of against you? Changing a failure habit to a success habit takes an accountability system, persistence, and time. Your brain will fight like heck to hold onto that failure habit that’s dug its claws in deep, but the good news is that once you get over that front loaded hump, your newly replaced success habit will be equally hard to break – automatically building momentum for you in the background without having to think about it 🙂

My Top Failure Habit From 2020 And How I’ll Replace It With A Success Habit

The biggest habit that slowed my momentum in 2020 can be found in my emotional health core. I’m a dweller. I’ve always been one, have worked on it and gotten way better, but this year I regressed a bit and let my old failure habit of giving things I had no control over way too much time and attention.

 

Selling my business in 2019 led to a half cash, half stock purchase which had me breaking out into cold sweats every time it would move a couple percentage points. We had a six month hold on the stock where we couldn’t sell it, and in this time I watched it go from $10/share to around $.30. I got caught up in the common trap of worrying constantly about if the stock would recover, and wasted countless hours stressing, adding wrinkles, and losing years off my life only to see it start to bounce back.

 

It’s not back to where it was, but is headed in the right direction, and my first 2021 commitment to myself is to only check it 1X/week since I’m not planning on selling it anyways. Eventually I want to get to 1X/mth and even 1X/year! But baby steps 🙂

Another major area I dwelled on in 2020 was my son’s development. He’s about to turn five, and even though I KNOW comparing him to other kids is just asking for trouble, I found myself doing it. I stopped catching myself in the act like I used to which allowed my brain to start running wildy with irrational theories of why he was behind in certain areas. I found myself falling victim to my fixed-victim self who predicted a bleak future as if my growth-owner self had no say in how the story would end.

 

My commitment in 2021 is to catch myself feeling sorry for Wyatt or myself and replace that feeling with an action to ensure he becomes the absolute best version of himself. I vow to focus on helping him focus on HIS strengths and exploring HIS passions vs dwelling on what it would look like if he had other strengths and passions – stemming from a preconceived notion I developed along the way of what a 4.5 year old should be.

 

One of the actions I committed to taking with my son has already paid off. I started researching ways to help him build his awareness and impulse control, and found a few games that could help him with it: “The Marshmallow Game” and “Red Light Green Light.” The marshmallow game where I give him a marshmallow and tell him I’ll be back in a minute and that if he doesn’t eat it will get another one has been a huge success! He had more impulse control than I thought, and my encouragement when he didn’t eat the initial marshmallow and continually reminding him of how proud I was of his self-control has paid off in noticeable changes in his impulsive behavior.

 

Next game on tap to help gamify Wyatt’s momentum, which he’s already been asking to play, “Red Light Green Light!”

 

Watch out 2021, I’m comin’ for ya!

 
How Can You Turn Your Failure Habits to Success Habits?

First step is to become aware of the biggest momentum killers for you in 2020. Make a list of the top habits that either did the most damage and/or you know will compound to do the most damage in the future. Don’t overthink it, just write them down, and after if you can categorize them into their corresponding core, do so.

 

Next step is prioritize the failure habits that you see would be the biggest game chargers were you able to replace them with success habits. What is #1, and what’s the action you need to take to replace it with its success habit counterpart? Make a commitment to take that action every single day until that pesky habit that’s dug in deep is swatted away and replaced with a little mini rocket automatically propelling you forward each day.

Gamify it by using technology to help remind or encourage you each day, and try giving yourself both short and long term rewards when you succeed. I.e. you reward yourself with taking a half day if you go a whole week without breaking your commitment to yourself, and you treat yourself to a new phone when you feel the habit is in full remission and the success habit is picking up speed daily.

 

In no time you’ll have the success habits you need to kick a$ and take names in 2021!

Let’s gooooooo!

Emotional Health:

Minimizing stressors, proactively incorporating your passions regularly, and making sure the world is better, not worse, for having you in it.

Giving Back: The Most Powerful Tool in Your Emotional Health Toolkit
Giving Back: The Most Powerful Tool in Your Emotional Health Toolkit

Have you ever wondered why the Emotional Health Core is usually listed as “Emotional Health/ Giving Back?” That’s because giving back is such a huge part of your emotional health that it’s almost on equal terms of importance.

The Emotional Health Core is nurturing the mind to feel good, do good, and leave a legacy you can be proud of. Giving Back is one of these elements to nurturing. The more you give and help others, the more you’ll fill your soul with joy and get back in return.

Think of how you feel all warm and fuzzy inside when you do a good deed for someone else. Giving is quite literally good for you. Even just witnessing an act of kindness can trigger this same response.
Recently I was standing in line at the drugstore. There was a young man and his mother waiting in front of me.

As we stood there waiting in line, I started to get aggravated it was taking so long. When the mother and son got to the register in front of me, I noticed that all they bought was a bag of chips and a pack of Oreos. My judging mind started to creep in and I caught myself thinking how unhealthy their choice of snack was before I squashed the thought.

As I exited, I noticed a big smile on a homeless guy’s face sitting outside the store. Upon further inspection, I saw that the young gentleman in front of me had handed him his pack of Oreos.

Bravo, sir!

I patted the young man on the back who just minutes earlier had been frustrating me and said, “Nice work, man, we need more like you.”

Your emotional health core thrives on helping others and giving back, so it’s important to seek opportunities to make another person’s day like that young man did.
Most people aren’t driven by power and money. They want power and money in order to make an impact in the areas they care about. Family, humanitarian causes, a desire to change an industry, or make the world a better place… In determining how YOU best can give back, use whatever you’re already great at at and passionate about to help you leave your legacy. For me, it’s writing a book and building an app that I’m hoping will lead to a movement of change where I help people become the best version of themselves to in turn pay it forward to make the world a better place.
Your goal is to create a cycle of giving. You give back to a cause you care about and get a boost of energy and empowerment from doing so. That boost lets you turn around and accomplish even more, which will in turn spur you to want to give back even more. This is part of what I call your “success loop,” which we’ll discuss more of in the near future.

Your tip this week is to determine what you can do to give back to others. Remember, start with what you already enjoy doing and are good at. How can you incorporate it into your regular routine? Maybe you love sports and could volunteer to be a big brother for an underprivileged kid where you play a sport you both enjoy once/week. Or maybe you love to bake and can make something for the local shelter?

Now go do goooooooooddddddd!
Finding Joy in the Ordinary Boosts Your Emotional Health
Finding Joy in the Ordinary Boosts Your Emotional Health
“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it.”
In the above quote from the timeless classic, Peter Pan, J.M. Barrie simply and beautifully illustrates the massive change we all go through from childhood to adulthood where many of us forget how to fly. I had once forgotten how to fly, but am one of the few fortunate ones who remembered how.

Most of us know we can’t live in Neverland forever; but we should all visit from time to time. Allowing ourselves to feel the wonder and freedom of childhood which fills our soul, gives us energy, and makes us want to be the best version of ourselves.

In balancing all five of our core areas – mindset, relationships, emotional health/giving back, career and finance, and physical health – it can be hard to prioritize joy. Most of us have real responsibilities and can’t live full time in Neverland while managing our finances and raising a family.

I’m here to tell you, though, you DO need to find your childlike wonder on a regular basis to ensure you’re filling your emotional health core so you can FIRE ON ALL CYLINDERS.

Have you ever caught yourself watching “Finding Nemo” after your kids go to bed? Or singing “Let It Go” by yourself while you’re getting ready for work? These movies still touch our souls as adults because they tap into the inner child in us that still craves adventure and magic. There are rides at Disney World that have 3 hour lines chock-full of grown men and women who want to feel the rush of flying through the world of Avatar on the back of a banshee. Joy and wonder and excitement may change as we get older, but it shouldn’t end.

One of the ways I find my childlike wonder these days is to see experiences that I’ve been taking for granted through the eyes of my child. Watching his eyes light up during a fireworks show helps me to see the vivid colors and feel the loud booms with excitement again. He gets excited every time a big truck pulls up next to us. The bigger the better! Can you imagine as an adult getting pure unbridled joy from a semi slowing down your evening commute? I can. Because that enthusiasm and wonder is contagious.

Sometimes I’ll be in the car alone and see a semi and think “Oh yeah, that’s a big one!” and laugh to myself because Wyatt isn’t even there. But in that moment, I found happiness in the ordinary. It’s a gift Wyatt has given to me that keeps my emotional health in check.

So, when you go for that run this weekend, go ahead and imagine you are being chased by a demogorgan. Take a hike through the woods and stop to marvel at the size of the paw prints you see (unless they are REALLY big, then don’t stop. Run like the wind, Forrest!). Feel the ice cold crunchiness of the snow in your hand and maybe even take a little taste (not if it’s yellow though. Never if it’s yellow.) Allow yourself to be silly and free. Find YOUR happiness in the everyday.

“Now, think of the happiest things
It’s the same as having wings
Let’s all try it, just once more
Look! We’re rising off the floor
Jiminy! Oh my! We can fly!
You can fly! We can fly!”
-You Can Fly! You Can Fly! You Can Fly!
Dream Big or Go Home

Dream Big or Go Home

Success! The big pie in the sky! We all dream of what we’ll do when we finally get our big break. Everybody has a different idea of what success will look like for them. Maybe you dream of being a rockstar, a successful entrepreneur, a baseball player, or CEO of a company. Whatever your idea of success is, I bet it has one common theme.

Money.
When you look at the role of money in your life in the big picture as it relates to all your cores, it’s actually only ½ of 1/5th (1/10th) of the big equation coming from the career & finance core. Yet it’s the go-to for people to describe what it means to be a success. Everybody wants to “Live The American dream.” which doesn’t say anything about a healthy mindset, relationships, physical health, and emotional health & Giving Back (your four other cores).
But subconsciously, what drives you to want money? Why do you want the cars, houses, and lifestyles of the rich and famous? What are you hoping it will do for you? If you really think about it, the answer is simple. “It will make me happy.” When you’re swimming around in your piles of gold like Scrooge McDuck, you’ll have a gold coin for every ounce of giddiness you feel.

At the end of the day, the definition of success you’re really, truly dreaming about is happiness. I’m not here to tell you money is the root of all evil. I’ve made money. Lots of it. And it took making that money to see that it’s one piece of the puzzle, just one part of the equation as mentioned above. Yes, your financial success is important. But to TRULY be your happiest and best self requires firing on ALL cylinders – becoming an entrepreneur of your life, not just your career and finances.
Make running the business of your life the most important business you run, or you’ll get in trouble.
We see it all the time in celebrities, especially young ones that hit it big before they’ve had a chance to develop their other cores (I’m looking at you, Biebs). They’ve got money and four other empty holes to fill with drugs and alcohol because they’re miserable without them. Dream of success, but know that what you’re really dreaming about is a life full of happiness so that you’re prepared for it when it comes.
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This weekend, I received a huge honor at my Alma Mater, Rollins College. I was the inaugural recipient of their new Career Champion In Residence Award. The award will celebrate a Rollins graduate each year for not only achieving career success but also for using their success to give back and do good in the world.
My day on campus was filled with various panels and activities to help out students looking for direction as they enter into the real world without having their hand held for the first time. At the end of the day, I had the opportunity to give a presentation on how important it is to nurture and balance
ALL of their cores, not just the career & finance one. It felt so great to be able to share some of the huge failures and mistakes I’ve made, and the lessons I’ve learned to become bigger, better, faster, stronger over the years.
Giving back replenishes my emotional core and makes me feel fulfilled. It’s why I’ve devoted so much of my life to Moore Momentum and trying to make this world a better place for all of us. Having the opportunity to help guide people into a balanced, happy life and leaving the world a better place for having been in it is what it means to truly be successful. In return, it propels me forward and drives me to do even more, so I’ll never quit leveling up.

This week’s tip

Redefine your success. Think past the money and plan out on paper what your life would be like in each core if you were firing on all cylinders. Download this worksheet to help you get started, putting the top 5 attributes/habits you’d like to see yourself attain in each! Pin it up somewhere that you’ll see it every day to keep your momentum going in each.

 

*Note: for more detail on what each of the cores stands for, click here.

*Note 2: the app that will be coming out mid-year will help you do this as well, but this will get you moving in the right direction in the meantime 🙂

Life is Unpredictable but Your Views and Reaction Don’t Have To Be
Life is Unpredictable but Your Views and Reaction Don’t Have To Be

 is like a box of chocolates. Yo“Lifeu never know what you’re going to get.” Tom Hanks made that quote go viral before viral was a thing. It was instantly famous, falling off the lips of everyone from toddlers to grandmas and pop-pops. This week it’s Joe Exotic and his epic music videos being talked about the most, but movies like Forrest Gump, with the depth and lessons learned will live on forever, which I’m afraid I can’t say about the Tiger King.



The simple quote reminds us how unpredictable life can be, and boy are we seeing that now more than ever with the coronavirus. Boys and girls, its sink or swim time.



Now is the time to take a look at your life and breathe it in. You’ve got a clean slate every day, and there are far less distractions you can use as an excuse. For the first time, in a long time, you have time to reflect on your life. To take a good long hard look at what’s working and what’s not. Whether you use this time as an opportunity to replace some of those failure habits you’ve developed with success ones is entirely up to you.



When it comes to your emotional health, let’s take a look at the areas in your life that are constantly stressing you out, as well as the areas you are super passionate about but have been neglecting.


Now is the time to step back, take a deep breath, and get a 10,000 ft view of your life. What are the top three things that are stressing you out on a daily basis? What are your top three passions, things that when you do them fill your soul with joy and excitement, that you’ve been neglecting?


This time of quarantine is an opportunity you may never get again. An opportunity to do some soul searching and reset a course for the life you’ve always known was out there somewhere, but has been eluding you. It’s time to take your life by the horns and show it who’s boss. To shine that spotlight on those things that are making you less happy and building negative momentum, and start the course of replacing them with the habits that will lead to your best self.


Soon your life will go back to normal and if you take no action, those things that were causing you pain and anguish will resume their course. Don’t blow this opportunity. Be the guy or gal who comes out of this thing bright and bushy tailed with a new attitude on life, and the foundation of new habits you’ve begun to form that will truly transform your life.

This week we’re focusing on emotional health, but each week we’ll be getting into what you can do in ALL five core areas to reset and prepare to take flight. Changing your habits in each of these will truly change your life, if you’ll only take the time to make a commitment to yourself and follow through no matter what. Here’s to you having a resilient mindset that has proven you can survive and flourish in any condition, new goals to propel your career and finances, deeper relationships and increased allies, better physical help leaving you looking better and feeling better, and emotional health that has you less stressed and enjoying ALL that life has to offer :).


Life is like a box of chocolates. You may not know what you’re gonna get, but you CAN determine how you both view and react to whatever it might be.

Action Tip:
Make a list of three things that have been on your radar of wanting to do but you’ve been putting them off because “life was getting in the way.” Here are some examples, but make sure the ones YOU choose are tied to YOUR passions and/or something you know will bring you and those you love immense joy!
  • Learn a new language

  • Look up youtube videos to learn an instrument

  • Take a free painting class online

  • Get a cookbook and start experimenting with some new recipes

  • Brush up on your knowledge of the stock market and take advantage of this rare opportunity (Check out my stock picking guide).

  • Use your camera’s timer app, get dressed up, and take a family photo

***Bonus points if you share your ideas with the group on my 5 Core Life Facebook Group page!

Toto, We’re Not In Kansas Anymore

Toto, We’re Not In Kansas Anymore

At the end of The Wizard of Oz, Glinda tells Dorothy, “My dear, you’ve always had the power. You just had to learn it for yourself.” Ohhhhh Glinda, you sneaky good witch, letting Dorothy get chased by flying monkeys and sniffing poisonous poppies just so you can tell her to buck up. It reminds me of an Adam Sandler quote from the Wedding Singer, “Things that could have been brought to my attention YESTERDAY!”

The truth is, though, that Dorothy needed to learn to rely on her own resourcefulness and gain self confidence. You see, life doesn’t stop throwing apples at you. Right now, COVID is our wicked witch and has released some very troublesome flying monkeys and we’re all running scared. But unlike our friend Glinda, I’ll tell you before the end of the movie “My 95%ers, you have the power and it’s time to learn for yourself.”

I know so many of you are absolutely paralyzed with fear right now. Today it’s flying monkeys but tomorrow it will be poppies. The point is, it’s all temporary and we as humans have to constantly adapt. You have the power within you to temper your reaction to life’s scary situations. And that starts with putting one foot in front of the other and constantly moving towards your goals.

First, you can change your perspective by taking a deep breath and looking at life from a 10,000 foot view. This will pass. Someday you’ll wake up in your bed in Kansas and the flying monkeys will be gone. When it does pass, your life might be pretty close to the same or it might look different than it did before. The best thing you can do to squash your anxiety and prepare yourself for getting back to life is to start putting success habits into place so that you can steer your life in the right direction.

There are so many things that ARE in your control right now and the more you excel in those areas, the better you’ll feel. Remember, it takes a single match to light a fire. One step in the right direction leads to more and more, you just have to believe you can and then take action.

For example, how many times have you looked at a celebrity and said, “Sure, I could be in amazing shape too if my job was to work out.” Well, what’s holding you back now? Start with smaller steps. Go for a walk in your neighborhood or dust off the treadmill and do what you can. There’s a reason JUST DO IT is one of the most iconic taglines in logo history.

Get started and you’ll see that huge mountain was just a molehill after all. And that it’s not such a big deal to climb the next one, and the next one, and the one after that. But here’s the thing – our friend, the law of compounding, tells us that all of those molehills will add up to form that one big giant mountain you were so afraid to climb in the first place.

Every little success habit is like a drop of water on the wicked witch. You ARE okay. You ARE resilient. You WILL get through this. And not only will you get through it, you’ll be stronger for it because you never stopped moving, towards your goals.

So the key is to KEEP TAKING ACTION on those things you know will lead to your happiness. Not the hollow temporary low-hanging fruit kind. But the deep, soul filling long-term kind that will continue to pay dividends. Step by step, day by day these actions will lead to more and more positive momentum on your way to becoming an unstoppable force! You won’t need to tap your heels together three times to instantly take you home to the same old mediocre life, because you’ll be building a life that will one day give you that magical sense of what home should really be like. Not through cosmically witchy powers, but through your ability to make and stick to the commitments you make to yourself.
This week’s action tip:
Make a list with your biggest failure habit in each core. Then create an action plan to replace each failure habit with a success habit that you can start right now.
For example:
Failure habit in relationships = I catch myself not listening to my spouse because I’m paying attention to my phone.
Success habit = I will put down the phone and actively listen to my spouse when they speak or when necessary I will communicate by saying something like “Can you give me a minute to finish this work text so that I can give you my full attention?” and then following through!
Humanize the Person Behind the Mask
Humanize the Person Behind the Mask

In the movie, Joker, Joaquin Phoenix brought the infamous nemesis of Batman to life. The movie presented a different side of the Joker than many viewers were used to seeing. Instead of portraying him as a villain who got his kicks from terrorizing the city of Gotham, it shows a man pushed past his limit by bullying and abuse. As someone with a neurological condition from abuse he endured as a child, he was forced to wear a theoretical mask to hide his condition. And was then beat up badly for it. In this portrayal, Gotham actually created the villain.


Here in reality, many of us are wearing actual masks. And behind those masks lie our vulnerabilities too. Some people are at higher risk for coronavirus and are scared to be out in public for the first time, some people are uncomfortable, and some are just plain irritated. Just like it can be easy to point out someone’s vulnerabilities from behind a keyboard, it can also be easier to be unkind from behind a mask.


Most of us aren’t used to going out and either wearing a mask or seeing them in public. It can provoke strong emotions. And oftentimes, 95%ers will lash out in an effort to avoid their emotions or even just because something or someone is different.

Now more than ever, our emotional healthEmotional & Giving Back is at stake. In order to promote social distancing, we’ve been conditioned to see other people as walking, talking, sneezing threats. Anyone could have the virus and it’s hard to look at people without suspicion. We want people to stay 6 feet apart and not sneeze or cough or even breathe in our direction. For the time being, it’s changed our connection with others and forces us to see them differently, especially as much of the world is starting to leave their houses again.



I’ve heard from people who are terrified in grocery stores of others who aren’t keeping their distance or following the new rules. I’ve also heard from people who see masks as a fear mongering technique or a sign of someone being gullible or cowardly. Wherever you stand on these issues, it can be hard to look people in the eye that don’t see things the same way as you because you perceive them as a threat to your well being.



But, my suggestion is, do it anyway. Look people in the eye and extend kindness. Humanize the person behind the mask. In order to grow and protect our own emotional health, we need to remember that the people around us aren’t walking petri dishes; they are our friends and neighbors. You can hold your own beliefs while respecting the beliefs of others. And you can still say hello while maintaining your distance. Don’t forget to look at people and connect. It will fill up your emotional health core more than you know.



And you never know, the person you connect with might just be on the edge and losing hope themselves. Your kindness could make all the difference.