WILL Moore

Do You Share this One Habit with ALL GREAT Success Stories?
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Do you Share this One Habit with
ALL Great Success Stories? 

How Would You Define the Ultimate Adrenaline Rush?

   

For an NBA star, it’s making a 3-point shot in the NBA Finals; For a baseball player, it’s a grand slam at the World Series; For a lawyer, it’s winning a big high publicity case; And for a doctor, it’s figuring out a way to cure their patient  against all odds. 

There’s an undercover theme hidden in all of the above examples. You might not think of it this way, but each of these superstars set a goal and subsequently crushed it.  We think of that basketball player as just being really great at shooting hoops or the lawyer as being amazingly persuasive. But so much more goes into it than raw talent or luck. 

The Real Secret Behind Jaw-Dropping Success

A basketball player spends his life working out, running, and practicing. He trains, trains, and then trains some more. That baseball player that just hit a grand slam? He lives, breathes and dreams the game. A doctor goes to college, then med school, followed by a grueling internship before becoming a resident. 

The end result we see as an outsider is their victory. That feel-good moment when they achieve greatness. The moment their team huddles at the World Series in explosive excitement or rushes the court after the NBA Finals. We see the tears of joy, the hugs, and the glory. 

We sit back and we think “Man! That guy has all the luck! What I wouldn’t give to be in his shoes!” But the real underlying story is that it’s not luck. These heroes all have growth owner mindsets and use goals to leverage their success. 

How Do you Set Goals and Achieve Them Like a Pro Who’s Destined to Succeed?

Making sure goals are attainable is important for your mindset and your persistence at reaching your goal.

One method is called setting SMART goals. SMART stands for:

Specific

Measurable

Attainable

Relevant 

Time-Based

In order to set and achieve goals using the SMART format, ask yourself are they: 

Specific  – This is the who, what, when, where and why of the goal. It’s the nitty gritty. Getting specific sets the foundation for ensuring the goals you set are attainable and measurable. Let’s say you’ve set a physical health goal of getting in shape.  What exactly does that mean to you? Is it when you’re thin? When you’re sporting a 6-pack? When are you in shape? This is one of those goals that, if not specific, could go on for an eternity while you lose just one more pound or firm up one more muscle. 

Measurable – Getting specific with your goal ensures that it’s measurable. Being measurable means having specific metrics in place to track your success. You’ll want milestones that help you see that you’re heading in the right direction. Getting in shape isn’t measurable. Losing 25 lbs or having a 7% body fat index is – but here’s the caveat – you have to have a way to measure it. 

Attainable – Want to drop 50 lbs in 6 weeks?  Think again. That’s the kind of goal that sends you right to the pantry to wallow in a bag of Cheetos. It’s not attainable so you’ve set yourself up for a not-so-fun failure loop

Relevant – Is there a reason you want to lose weight?  Do you even have any weight to lose? What purpose does it serve in your life? If you don’t have a relevant reason for setting the goal, will you be motivated to attain it? Or feel good about it when you do? It’s also important to make sure goals align with your core values.

Time-based – Goals with an infinite timeline are much less likely to be accomplished. A goal without a deadline is breeding ground for excuses. Having a timeline helps you prioritize the goal, as well as reassess how attainable it is. Timelines can be a great motivator too. Losing 10 lbs by vacation is much more motivating than just losing 10 lbs. 

Don’t forget to Gamify Your Goals for Motivation

Once you start setting and achieving your goals in a SMART way, you’ll be on your way to a growth mindset. You can make it even better by gamifying your goals and giving yourself rewards when you reach your milestones.  When you do this, the reward center in your brain gives you the dopamine hits that motivate you to keep going! 

For example, I have my long, mid and short term goals I’m constantly working off of. I review my long and mid every Monday, and then customize my prioritized to-do list based on these. I set goals for each week, and when I meet them, I’ll give myself a reward such as taking Friday off to hang with kids or play golf, treat myself to a massage, or order from my favorite Sushi restaurant (too expensive for regular thing, but that spider roll tastes so much better when I know I’ve earned it).  

These short term goals give me just enough dopamine hits to want to keep chasing that carrot that seems so far off. 

Now get out there and crush it like the super duper star you are 😉

Could this Secret Career and Finance Killer be Sabotaging Your Success?

 

 

Could this Career and Finance Killer be 
Sabotaging Your Success? 

 

Use this Millionaire Success Habit to Eliminate It Now

   

It happened again. You worked your tail off to reach an important career goal. You set goals, stayed ahead of deadlines and were one step ahead of every potential problem. Sure, you had to drive your team more than you’d like but it was all about to be worth it in the end.

Then you get the email. A pivotal team member has her dog’s groomer’s cousin’s grandmother’s funeral and has to miss work…. Again. Your project is DOA. As the Pac-Man game would so ruthlessly flash on the screen in my youth with no remorse or empathy, “Game Over.”

One of the millionaire success habits I learned early on as the CEO of Doorstep Delivery is to constantly make the changes needed to have the right team in place. A toxic team member can literally make or break your business. The problem is, even CEOs with millionaire success habits are human and also don’t like to flash someone the “Game Over” cue by firing them when they’re not delivering (pun intended).

This is where checking your goals vs habits comes in handy. You know what you want, and you know how to get it, but you make excuses for a poor performer and subconsciously enable their victim mentality because you don’t want to do the heavy lifting of firing an employee.

The truth is, though, sabotage from your team can affect every single one of your five cores. Have you ever had a team you can’t rely on so you couldn’t possibly take a vacation? That’s a hit to your emotional core. Who can spend time playing basketball when they’ve got to pick up the slack for Debbie in accounting who hasn’t sent out an invoice in 6 months? Now you’re falling short on your physical health core. Not to mention the stress and frustration chomping away at your mindset – especially when your relationship core is under stress because you haven’t quit working before 9pm in weeks.

 

The Millionaire Success Habit that will Change Your Life

 

A toxic team member is a deal-breaker for me. I can spot one a mile away and while I don’t relish the conversation that follows, I don’t hesitate to get them off the bus for the good of myself, the rest of my team, and all of the people in our lives that the situation affects.

Another crucial success habit is to take action the second you know a problem is attacking your cores. I consider finding and recruiting the right team a high priority in my job. My team members are either contributing to the success of the team, or they’re standing in the way of it. And when you look at it that way, it’s pretty easy to tell who fits in which category. When I have the right team in place, the payoff is amazing for everyone on the team, including myself.

I no longer dread the recruiting process or make excuses for bad apples just so I don’t have to go through the process of finding someone new. I’m always looking out for talent, passion and dedication and when I find it, I jump on it.

Below are some good habits I’ve tied into my success system for ensuring I’ve always got the right people ON the bus knowing what they need to do, and the sabotaging ones OFF the bus so as not to kill the team momentum.

 

Four Step System To Ensure Your Team Is Producing Maximum Momentum

 

  1. Document Your Processes – You won’t dread having to hire and train new people if you’ve got a documented system in place to onboard employees. The more detailed, the better. Create step-by-step instructions for each position and keep them updated.
  2. Automate – We use Asana on my team, which is a free project management tool. We have an onboarding project template all set up to walk people through basic training, signing documents, and getting to know our programs and systems.
  3. Keep an updated job description – Make sure to have clear requirements for the position and keep it updated as you learn what skills and personality traits work in each position (and which ones don’t).
  4. Retain – When you find the right employees, do what it takes to keep them! You can use gamification with incentives and contests to keep your team happy and motivated
Ready To Stop Feeling Overwhelmed? A Bear Encounter is Just What You Need

Ready to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed?

A Bear Encounter Is Just What You Need

EVERYONE has bad days, failures, and times when they feel they can’t take one more thing on their plate. I do the things I’ve learned over the years to maintain a growth owner mindset vs fixed victim mindset; I’ve gamified my life in a way that helps me constantly form good habits – like rehearsing my mantra every morning, habit stacking, accomplishing the goals I set, balancing my cores, and running my life like a startup.

But that doesn’t mean life doesn’t kick me in the arse every now and then. It just means I have the tools to know how to get ahead in life – instead of just staying stuck in the dark place – more quickly. And one of these tools is to help me spot when my cores are becoming too unbalanced.

5 Core LIfe Isn’t Just A Gimmicky Phrase – It Can Help You Form Good Habits
A few months ago I recognized an unhappiness creeping in. I wasn’t firing on all cylinders in my 5 cores because my career and finance core was taking up more and more time, leaving less room for my other four. Knowing that all work and no play makes Will a dull boy, I took action. I’d been invited to a guy’s trip in the beautiful mountains of White Fish Montana, but had originally said no because of what I had on my plate. Recognizing I wasn’t following my own advice, I reached out and luckily it was still a go! I made a commitment to myself to form good habits from the start, so I unplugged during the trip to get the most out of it. It was TRULY MAGNIFICENT. There were deer outside our cabin each morning that we named Frick and Frack, biking, hiking, fishing, golfing, and great food and drink. Being in nature really reminded me what’s important in life and that we all come into this world bright eyed and bushy tailed like the rabbits we saw hopping along one of our trails.

Then life gets in the way and we stumble. We let our fears take over and lose that momentum we had when the world was full of wonder and potential. Even though we work hard to form good habits, life steps in and makes it hard to keep up our self-care activities. It’s important to remind ourselves now and again why personal core values are important, and do a hard reset (WITHOUT the electronics). To acknowledge the bear (fear/dwelling/unbalance), what you can learn from it, then move on.

But Were There Real Bears?

Yes there were, but none of them put themselves in my peripheral, and that’s just fine with me. Knowing they were there lurking and could cause some serious damage actually helped me to appreciate even more what was right in front of me. Gorgeous mountains, flowing streams, green forests, my friends’ smiling faces, and a reminder of the meaning of life. My business didn’t fall apart without me, my family survived (God bless my saint of a wife for knowing this is something I needed even though it left her holding down the fort), Tik-Tok didn’t fold without my viewing hours, and the Bachelorette is still sitting right on my DVR (that’s right, no shame in that game). Really connecting with nature, the outdoors, and all that this earth has to offer was a soul fulfilling event. Getting to do it with my friends was the joy I needed to remember the importance of both my relationship and emotional health cores. There’s a reason they are 2 of the five main core values of our lives that lead to our overall happiness.
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Build a Life That Can Survive without You For A Week to 

 Really Balance Your Cores

While I know that ultimately, I’m crucial to the success of my own business and the upbringing of my children, it’s good to know that I can unplug for a week and the systems I’ve put into place, and the people I’ve surrounded myself with, can carry on without me for a week.

I encourage my team and my family to form good habits in their cores, and in return, they encourage and support me when I need some self-care activities in mine. They are my accountability buddies in that way. Some people are flat out threatened by the thought of not being needed. A universal principle for happiness though is to live a wholistic lifestyle by balancing ALL 5 cores, which means not being shackled by any one of them.

So if you’re feeling shackled like I was, get a game plan in place. Make a list of the main areas you’d need to cover and their critical functions needed if you decided to unplug for a week. We’re living in the best time in history to do this because of how racy technology has made it to hire people remotely from all ocer the world (Fiverr, Upwork, etc) and manage them remotely (Asana, Slack, CRM’s, etc). So no excuses to get out there and reconnect with the great outdoors and some overdue quality friend time 🙂

If you need some help figuring out which core areas you need to work on, check out my free core values quiz.

Stop Failing and Start Living Your Best Life

Use Your Mindset to Stop Failing and Start Living Your Best Life

There are some classic combinations that are just meant to be together. Could anything be more comforting than the smooth, creamy taste of salty peanut butter together with cold sweet jelly hitting the roof of your mouth? How about the sound of pencil scratching along on paper while you write your deepest thoughts? Socks rights out of the dryer paired up with your comfiest pair of sneakers. Red wine complementing a tart cheese.

 

And rap group Run DMC mixed with the classic rock melodies of Aerosmith.

 

Say what? (Sound of record player screeching)…

 

Oh my friends, if you aren’t familiar with the classic Run DMC/Aerosmith Collaboration “Walk this Way,” you’re in for a treat.

 

But first, a little history.

We’re Going Back…. Back to the Future

The year was 1986. Aerosmith had been around since 1970 and while they didn’t dominate the classic rock scene, they had held their own. By the end of the decade, they had quite a little following. They also had quite a little drug habit and it led to the kind of self-sabotage so many bands, like the BeeGees, could relate to. They were stuck in a tragically cliche failure loop. Band members were passing out on stage and internal conflict was aplenty.

Hip Hop on the other hand, was just emerging but far from mainstream. We were listening to full-blown 80s pop while playing with our GI Joes and Transformers – Whitney Houston, Huey Lewis and the News, Madonna, Wham!, and these guys were called Flock of Seagulls.

MTV actually played music videos and it was still a fairly new but exploding concept. The videos were taking the music to a whole new level that audiences couldn’t get enough of. And the right song paired with the right video could create sheer magic! Case in point, Aha’s “Take On Me”!

 

Video truly did kill the radio star in that the song alone no longer cut it. Bands needed the look, the outfits, the big hair, and the acting chops to pull it all off so they didn’t look ridiculous.

 

So, how did a drug-ravaged classic rock band and a rap/hip-hop band even stand a chance of releasing a chart topping pop hit in 1986?

 
“This is hillbilly gibberish … Country bumpkin bullshit!” – Run

Alas, this pairing of past their prime rock royalty and up-and-coming hip hop legends was not a peanut butter meets jelly story – at least at first. The two bands bristled at the idea of a collaboration.

 

Producer Rick Rubin knew he had something legendary in Run DMC. But mainstream radio wasn’t buying it. Hip-Hop and Rap were gaining traction but getting their songs played on the popular radio stations was like trying to fit a square in a round hole. It just wasn’t happening.

Rubin, however, had that growth owner mindset I’m always referring to when speaking of those that know they have something special to offer the world and won’t stop no matter what until they do.

 

He knew there could be something magical in bridging the gap between the explosive Hip Hop style taking the world by storm and the classic grunge rock that had dominated for so long. And what better way to build that bridge but than to take the whitest, most cliche “country bumpkin bullshit” band and have Run DMC rap their lyrics.

 

Neither band was down at first. Aerosmith thinking they were too established, too cool for school to bring in newcomers onto an already proven hit they had over a decade earlier. Run DMC not getting the connection between what they were doing and the music they were setting out to replace.

Alas, Rubin and his growth owner mindset pushed through the temporary obstacles and made it happen. He was able to find the golden ticket to bring them together in that drum rift you hear at the very beginning and throughout the song.

 

The two bands begrudgingly joined forces to spend one day in the studio leading to one of the most original and greatest hits of all time.

 

It. Was. Magic.

 

Here it is in all its glory:

Even though Run DMC didn’t want to be known for lyrics like:

 

So I took a big chance at the high school dance

 

With a miss who was ready to play

Wasn’t me she was foolin’ ’cause she knew what she was doin’

When she told me how to walk this wayyyyy

 

In their wildly popular music video, the two bands literally broke down the wall that had been holding hip-hop back from mainstream music. Suddenly Run DMC was on everyone’s lips. Classic Rock and Pop fans were just exposed to a whole new world of hip hop and rap. Run DMC had officially made it. They were a household name.

 

And Aerosmith catapulted back into the spotlight. The hit was the beginning of a very long and fulfilling success loop. They went on to record a multi-platinum record called Permanent Vacation the next year, followed by three more multi-platinum records and their first number one hit. They were rock legends.

The Lesson
(Hint: you’ll need to learn to walk this way to find your own smash hit)

It’s almost impossible to spot lightning in a bottle before it strikes, yet we often say “of course that was gonna blow up, it’s awesome!”

 

So how do we set ourselves up to spot these moments so we can build momentum on top of them ahead of time? We take a lesson from Mr. Rick Rubin who, instead of following the formulaic mold with his head in the sand, stepped back and took a 10k view on what he saw going on in the industry, and anticipated what might work.

 

He bitch-slapped his fixed-victim self telling him it’s too risky, it won’t work, and allowed his growth owner mindset to rise up and say to yourself “Now looky here. This is going to work and we’re not going to give up until we make it happen.”

 

Are you just going through life checking off to-do’s with your head down following some mold that worked for someone else but is having diminishing returns for you? Are you playing it safe vs taking that big chance at the high school dance?

 

So often we look to others for ideas and try to reinvent their wheel and make it our own. But genius lies in having the courage and creativity to break through brick walls and failure loops to look for ways to make OUR dreams and passions, not someone else’s, a reality.

 

Rubin went on to be a legend with that growth owner mindset of his, and Aerosmith and Run DMC must have picked up on some of it because their careers exploded after that. Were there failures for all three along the way? Of course. But they were able to use them as learning opportunities to then pivot so as to ensure continued momentum.

 

How about you?

 

Doing something groundbreaking is never easy. But a failure habit is to tap a brick wall with a mallet and give up when it doesn’t break the first time, and a success habit is to pound at it with a sledgehammer until it gives way and allows you into the life you’ve always dreamed of. Have the mindset and courage to find your own way with your own passions and success will be yours for the taking.

 

Are you ready to walk this way?

Is Your Perception Sabotaging Your Chances To Become A Sexy Millionaire?
Is Your Perception Sabotaging Your Chances To Become A Sexy Millionaire?
You’ve Got All the Power. Just Do What The Bee Gees Did, Then Didn’t, Then Did again.

Aww Sooky Sooky. Just finished watching the Bee Gees HBO documentary and let me tell you, I’m diggin what they were throwin down. It was out of sight, totally groovy man.

 

My 70s slang aside, I am so glad I finally watched it and I highly recommend it not only for the sheer thrill of being transported back to the disco era in glorious fashion, but maybe you’ll learn a thing or two about yourself as you watch with the help of this article.

Here’s the skinny. If I’m dating myself by assuming you know who the Bee Gees are, here’s all you need to know about the brothers:

Got it! Oh, and they sang a flurry of chart topping hits you DEFINITELY know and can sing along to: Stayin’ Alive, Night Fever, You Should Be Dancing, and many more. Got it jive turkey? Oh ya, I forgot aboutJive Talkin’

The Momentum Ride of a Lifetime

Their journey was a true nerve testing roller-coaster – not to be confused with the hit song “Love Rollercoaster” from that same era. The Gibb boys followed in the footsteps of their idols, the Beatles, coming out of England to take the world by storm in their teens, but then they became nearly irrelevant, only to shoot to mega stardom years later in 1977 with the soundtrack from the movie “Saturday Night Fever” – solidifying their status as the kings of disco. Something that would later come to bite them in their silky gold pants suits (but I’ll leave out the spoilers).

 

Those Gibb brothers experienced as big a momentum ride as a human can take. Soaring up, up up into the big, bold, beautiful sky, then falling down, down, down back to earth. Then up, up up … well, you get the idea. And throughout the documentary it became crystal clear what failure habits led to their initial demise (hint one of them rhymes with plugs), and what success habits allowed them to stage their epic comeback.

 
Perception Is As Perception Does
The very first scene in the documentary starts with a wide shot of a stunning Miami mega-compound slowly panning towards the silhouette of a sullen figure. Enter the voiceover “I am beginning to recognize the fact that nothing is true, It’s all down to perception.” Barry Gibb, the oldest and arguably most popular Bee Gee who was able to hit those legendary high notes (masterfully imitated by Jimmy Fallon in this Saturday Night Live Sketch), is revealed. I know I’m in for a good one.
“I am beginning to recognize the fact that nothing is true, It’s all down to perception.”

Let that sink in for a groovy sec. This one, my friends, is the difference between living a happy, prosperous, soul-filled life or … a pretty crappy one.

 

Without giving away too many spoilers, as we move through the history of these seemingly lucky, then cursed, then lucky again brothers’ lives, it becomes crystal clear what Barry meant. All that fame, money, and power and this poor guy hardly enjoyed any of it.

The Tale Of Two Mindsets

Why did he suffer instead of bask in the glow of what should have been one of the best lives anyone has ever lived (I mean look at that hair)? He was consumed with a fixed-victim mindset that had him convinced that he was cursed, the world was out to get him, and there was nothing he could do about it. His entire reality was being seen through this lens which crushingly skewed every single moment he had during that time.

 

It’s only now that he realizes what life might have looked like through a growth-owner’s eyes. That higher self we all have the opportunity to tap into and tell ourselves:

“Listen up and listen good. I know I’ve got everything within me to kick ass and take names, I’m going to fail forward learning and growing every step of the way, and obstacles are temporary roadblocks waiting for solutions. Fear, meh, I’ll give it the finger because I know it’s merely an opportunity to help me become the bigger, better, faster, stronger, version of myself.”

Do You Have A Fixed-Victim Or A Growth-Owner Mindset?

What lens are you looking through life with and how has that lens affected where you currently stand today? Where you live, what you do for a living, what direction and with how much velocity you’re headed there with?

 

Which mindset do you think will create positive momentum moving forward? Which will momentify your life so that rather than constantly searching for happiness, happiness gravitates toward you like a moth to a flame – or a Bee Gee to a sequins pant suit.

Learn from Barry, the last remaining Bee Gee (shoot, I did it again, I’m terrible with spoilers) who wishes he could do it all over again. Someone who, on the surface would have been the envy of anyone, but who’s mindset framed that period of his life in mostly misery and pain.

How To Get Your Perception To Make 2021 Your B!#@h

Sadly, the tale of Barry Gibb and the rest of the Bee Gees is not uncommon for celebrities. In fact, they are much more likely to suffer the type of existence that makes for a great HBO documentary, or my fav from back in the day, “VH1’s Behind The Music.” So what shot do little ol’ you have?

 

Ironically, a better one.

 

You don’t have the enormous distractions and temptations that come with having an angel’s voice, golden locks, and a furry chest. So let’s get to work.

 

There are several life-hacks I have to trick your dog-brain into working FOR instead of against you, and they all revolve around your habits. Your habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, working for or against you – in the end they’re going to compound and form who you are either way.

 

The more action you take based on what a growth-owner would do, the more you’ll slowly start to feel and experience the life you’re fully capable of having.

 

A top one of these actions is to write down a list of your top 3 fears. I’m serious, you can’t just think of them. Writing has a magical effect on making things real so that we have to pay attention to them.

 

Next, make a commitment to yourself in the next week to tackle one of these fears head on NO MATTER WHAT. Start small, but keep your promise to yourself and you’ll be on your way to stepping out of your “failure loop” and into your “success loop.” Growth-owner launch initiated!

 
 

Since we’re still at the start of the year, you’ve got plenty of time to make 2021 your B!#@h. Like another one of my favs from back in the day, this one from the 80’s hit “The Goonies” that I just watched with my son this weekend, it’s YOUR TIME. “Our Time” Goonies Clip!

If you need help, DM me. I love rapping one on one with people who are serious about owning their happiness.

 

Peace, love and granola.

Are Failure Habits Crushing Your Happiness?
Are Failure Habits Crushing Your Happiness?

A failure habit is something you do, repeatedly, that sabotages your happiness, health and/or success. We all have them and they’re ingrained into the woodwork of our lives, like termites eating away at the foundation of our happiness. I often talk about how turning failure habits to success habits is a game changer. Habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, helping or hurting us – they do their thing and make a huge impact on our lives either way.

So why not make habits work FOR instead of against you? Changing a failure habit to a success habit takes an accountability system, persistence, and time. Your brain will fight like heck to hold onto that failure habit that’s dug its claws in deep, but the good news is that once you get over that front loaded hump, your newly replaced success habit will be equally hard to break – automatically building momentum for you in the background without having to think about it 🙂

My Top Failure Habit From 2020 And How I’ll Replace It With A Success Habit

The biggest habit that slowed my momentum in 2020 can be found in my emotional health core. I’m a dweller. I’ve always been one, have worked on it and gotten way better, but this year I regressed a bit and let my old failure habit of giving things I had no control over way too much time and attention.

 

Selling my business in 2019 led to a half cash, half stock purchase which had me breaking out into cold sweats every time it would move a couple percentage points. We had a six month hold on the stock where we couldn’t sell it, and in this time I watched it go from $10/share to around $.30. I got caught up in the common trap of worrying constantly about if the stock would recover, and wasted countless hours stressing, adding wrinkles, and losing years off my life only to see it start to bounce back.

 

It’s not back to where it was, but is headed in the right direction, and my first 2021 commitment to myself is to only check it 1X/week since I’m not planning on selling it anyways. Eventually I want to get to 1X/mth and even 1X/year! But baby steps 🙂

Another major area I dwelled on in 2020 was my son’s development. He’s about to turn five, and even though I KNOW comparing him to other kids is just asking for trouble, I found myself doing it. I stopped catching myself in the act like I used to which allowed my brain to start running wildy with irrational theories of why he was behind in certain areas. I found myself falling victim to my fixed-victim self who predicted a bleak future as if my growth-owner self had no say in how the story would end.

 

My commitment in 2021 is to catch myself feeling sorry for Wyatt or myself and replace that feeling with an action to ensure he becomes the absolute best version of himself. I vow to focus on helping him focus on HIS strengths and exploring HIS passions vs dwelling on what it would look like if he had other strengths and passions – stemming from a preconceived notion I developed along the way of what a 4.5 year old should be.

 

One of the actions I committed to taking with my son has already paid off. I started researching ways to help him build his awareness and impulse control, and found a few games that could help him with it: “The Marshmallow Game” and “Red Light Green Light.” The marshmallow game where I give him a marshmallow and tell him I’ll be back in a minute and that if he doesn’t eat it will get another one has been a huge success! He had more impulse control than I thought, and my encouragement when he didn’t eat the initial marshmallow and continually reminding him of how proud I was of his self-control has paid off in noticeable changes in his impulsive behavior.

 

Next game on tap to help gamify Wyatt’s momentum, which he’s already been asking to play, “Red Light Green Light!”

 

Watch out 2021, I’m comin’ for ya!

 
How Can You Turn Your Failure Habits to Success Habits?

First step is to become aware of the biggest momentum killers for you in 2020. Make a list of the top habits that either did the most damage and/or you know will compound to do the most damage in the future. Don’t overthink it, just write them down, and after if you can categorize them into their corresponding core, do so.

 

Next step is prioritize the failure habits that you see would be the biggest game chargers were you able to replace them with success habits. What is #1, and what’s the action you need to take to replace it with its success habit counterpart? Make a commitment to take that action every single day until that pesky habit that’s dug in deep is swatted away and replaced with a little mini rocket automatically propelling you forward each day.

Gamify it by using technology to help remind or encourage you each day, and try giving yourself both short and long term rewards when you succeed. I.e. you reward yourself with taking a half day if you go a whole week without breaking your commitment to yourself, and you treat yourself to a new phone when you feel the habit is in full remission and the success habit is picking up speed daily.

 

In no time you’ll have the success habits you need to kick a$ and take names in 2021!

Let’s gooooooo!

Emotional Health:

Minimizing stressors, proactively incorporating your passions regularly, and making sure the world is better, not worse, for having you in it.

Can Humans Multitask?
Can Humans Multitask?

When you went on that job interview and your future or potential future employer asked you: “Are you a good multitasker?” Did you go, “Yeah buddy, that’s me. I’m all in”?

Hate to burst your bubble, but that’s a bad question and there is no right answer other than: “No, I’m not a good multitasker.”

Multitasking doesn’t exist, my friends. It’s actually a myth.

Turns out we have billions of neurons in our brain that can do lots of pretty cool stuff, but multitasking, doing two things at the same time, straight up is not one of them. Know that myth and use it to help you.

How?

By making sure that when you’re trying to build your habits, you’re not trying to do too many at once.
Why Can’t People Keep Their New Year’s Resolutions?

Leading up to New Year’s, many of us say “I’m gonna be this, I’m going to be that” and then you start taking too many actions. Things like I need to eat well, I need to exercise well, I need to start building my relationships…all of these different cores are trying to be done all at once.



What ends up happening is you get frustrated and you end up quitting because it’s impossible to do!



Your brain hasn’t had time to build that one habit.

Why Is It So Hard To Break Habits?

Remember, habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, helping or hurting us. Once they’re locked in, they’re going to work for or against us.

They’re going to get into our subconscious and start doing their thing so that we don’t have to think about them.

If you have a bad habit that’s hurting you, it’s going to take some front-loaded work. You’re going to have to take those actions, make that commitment, make sure you keep doing them until that failure habit is replaced with a success habit.

If you try to do too many at once, you’re never going to get to that point, and then they’re going to fizzle off and you’re going to find yourself back at square one and all that was wasted energy.

Hope you enjoyed this tip today. Multitasking, “Schmultitasking”. ‘Til next time!
Lessons for the Class of 2020
Lessons for the Class of 2020
Dear Classes of 2020,

Oh what a hand you’ve been dealt. No spring break or class trip to Washington D.C. No senior ditch day. No prom. No final spring sports season. And no walking down the aisle to collect the diploma you so richly deserve.

There is no doubt about it. This isn’t the graduation you had planned. You poured your blood, sweat and tears into your school career and deserve to be celebrated. So let me be the first say that I am celebrating you and all of your accomplishments.

But, just like in every area of life, being a growth owner vs a victim right now is so important. You can choose to make this a defining moment where you start your life-long saga as life’s victim; or you can choose the path towards learning and growth. And as hard as it may be, you don’t want to move forward from here with your mindset programmed to be life’s victim.

You have so much life in front of you and despite circumstances, we need to get you off on the right foot! There are lessons to be learned from this COVID-19 era and you get to be the first to learn them. You have a front row seat to the areas where we as a society have become complacent because life has been soooo good for so long, and the good news is you can learn from our mistakes and do better. So despite the disappointment, perk up your ears and know that coronavirus might be the biggest lesson of your education.

As you make plans for your future careers, there is so much to take into consideration. Here are three things you can learn from this pandemic:
1.Get that nest egg going. Your youth is the best time to take advantage of the law of compounding. To some degree, many of us have taken for granted good times in this country. We put our wants above our needs and those needs undoubtedly include a safety net. A lot of people erroneously believe if you have debt, you shouldn’t have savings. This is a risky belief when you most likely will be coming out of school with some degree of student debt.

You still need to build savings, while you pay down debt. Find other places to make sacrifices, but never your savings. An Xbox is great until you can’t pay to keep your electricity on. Make contributing to savings a weekly success habit now and you’ll never be caught short! You can use apps like Acorn, Robinhood and WeBull to make this process super simple.

2.Follow your dreams, but choose your path wisely! The difference between employers that care about their employees well-being and those who don’t has never been more obvious. Employers that allow employees to work from home, provide appropriate sick time and are flexible to their employees needs while kids are home from school are shining right now, even if the pay is slightly less than their competitors. This should always be the gold standard, pandemic or not. Quality of life is an underappreciated benefit in the workplace.

3.Success is about adaptability. Some of the greatest lessons learned during this pandemic has been that those businesses that can adapt to customers’ current needs will survive any situation. Distilleries that would be sitting idle are now making hand sanitizer. They were able to use their equipment to adapt to the current market to stay afloat. Ford Motor Company is making face shields, clothing companies are making face masks and some dine in restaurants are offering carry out for the first time. Instead of closing their doors and giving up, these companies are staying relevant. I’m not saying that you should always be planning for the next disaster, but you should always be thinking outside that box to stay in tune with your market. What’s popular and needed today, might not be tomorrow. But if you make it a habit to always be ready to adapt, you’ll come out on top!

Whether or not you are part of a graduating class this year, I challenge you to think about these lessons and the success habits you can put into place going forward to be stronger and more resilient.

Class of 2020, you are a force to be reckoned with. Congratulations on making it to the next step! It’s going to be a wild ride and there will be no one better prepared.
Sleep – The Unsung Hero We All Need

Sleep – The Unsung Hero We All Need

Movies are full of unsung heroes. Poor Duckie shows up for Andie and then still steps aside for crush, Blane, in Pretty in Pink. Cameron gets the car, goes along with all of Ferris’s antics and takes all of the heat from his dad in Ferris Bueller’s Day Off. And who could forget Ellen in Christmas Vacation – cooking the food, entertaining the parents, and even flipping the garage switch to turn on the infamous Griswold family lights just so Clark could declare “I did it” in the last scene.

So, my Momentum Builders, who’s the unsung hero of ALL of our lives? What do we take for granted that’s vital to our health and success? S-L-E-E-P. Sleep doesn’t get the recognition it deserves every morning when we crawl out of bed. When you crush your workout or nail a presentation, does anyone slow-clap for the sleep that made it all possible? It just quietly does its job and when you don’t get enough, you blame IT because you didn’t get enough. Poor sleep. Moping forever in its room with Cameron.
For driven growth-owners (people with growth mindset) who want to hit it hard every day, sleep is often the last thing we want to do with our time. We want to push ourselves harder, longer, and get a few more things done. “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” you mutter to yourself between yawns. Or maybe we feel we deserve that extra hour of TV or YouTube after a long, hard day. After all, there’s always caffeine, right?
Yep, caffeine. Caffeine’s the guy who gets all the glory. Caffeine will save the day! But repeat after me, Starbucks lovers, “caffeine is not the superhero we need.” Caffeine doesn’t produce cytokines, a type of protein that wards off inflammation and infections, like the flu. You can thank your old friend sleep for that.

Sleep also reduces blood pressure, which leads to a healthier heart; reduces blood sugar to keep diabetes at bay; and fosters muscle repair. It gives you stamina to endure tough workouts and sharpness to make good decisions. At the end of the day, if you’re not getting enough sleep, you’re not balancing your physical health core. You’re not giving your body what it needs to be the best version of YOU every single day.

So how do you know if you’re getting enough sleep? Do you wake up before your alarm clock goes off? Are you awake and alert, or are you heavy-blinking while you’re in meetings or driving? Are you reaching for caffeine to keep you going?


Making an effort to get the right amount of sleep all comes down to success habits and your mindset. It means recognizing sleep as an important piece of your physical health and making it a priority in your life. Start small, and slowly make the choice to increase your sleep time until it becomes a meaningful lifelong success habit. Your health will thank you!

This Week’s Core Tip:
Ask yourself if you’re naturally a night owl or a morning bird? Left to your own devices, do you have energy later and stay up, or does your energy come first thing and slowly deteriorate throughout the day? You DON’T want to go against your natural bio-rhythms if you don’t have to, though it is possible in my experience to somewhat retrain yourself to the sleep hours you desire.

Figure out how you can make your natural sleep cycle work for you, and determine what amount of sleep you need to feel rested and energized each day. Most studies will say anywhere from 6-9 hours, but everyone is different.

I put on a wearable to bed and use an app called “Sleep Watch” to track my sleep. This has been a huge friction reducer in figuring out the areas I need to improve on, giving me insights such as how much restful sleep I’m getting and my heart rate variations, and making sure I’m getting the sleep I know I need overall.
Use Your Groundhog Days to Become Stronger
Use Your Groundhog Days to Become Stronger

“Babe, I got you babe. I got you babe. I got you babe.” If you’ve ever seen the movie Groundhog Day, you know that Bill Murray’s character, Phil Connors, groans as he wakes up to hear this Sonny and Cher hit on his hotel alarm clock at exactly 6am morning after morning, signaling that he’s about to relive the same day as yesterday. Fun fact, it’s been estimated that poor Phil woke up to this song and this day 12,403 times, which is way more than I ever imagined!


Although it may feel like our country has been in lockdown and living our own groundhog day about a day more than Phil had to endure, the reality is, most of us have been social distancing around 30 days.



In this disruption from our regularly scheduled programming, we’ve dramatically changed our way of life. Some of us may have even coddled ourselves a bit and given into carte-blanche Netflix and Dorito binges. This is a totally natural response. The habits that we’ve spent years accumulating, for better or worse, have suddenly ground to a halt. And without our habits, we’ve been left wondering, what the heck do we do now?



Well my friends, it’s time to dust off your gym shoes and … well… I guess stay in your daily uniform of sweats and a t-shirt because we’re about to get physical.


Just because you can’t go to the gym or dominate your weekend basketball league doesn’t mean that exercise is out of your control. There are plenty of ways that you can still get your heart pumping, blood flowing, and expand your lungs. A sweet bonus to the physical benefits of exercise is the emotional benefit that comes with the feeling of accomplishment that can be elusive to say the least right now. Remember, the mind and body are connected. Period.

According to Medline Plus, among many other benefits, exercise can help you lose weight, keep blood sugars under control, and improve heart health. Being overweight, having diabetes, and cardiovascular disease are three of the top risk factors for severe COVID disease. Just like hand washing, covering your face and disinfecting surfaces are a vital part of your health right now, so is exercise.

Whether you’ve been a gym rat your whole life or a self-proclaimed couch potato, being confined to our homes is definitely taking a toll on the amount of physical activity we get each day. Most of us aren’t walking through stores, running through parking lots, or choosing the stairs over the elevator right now, let alone hitting the gym. To be a growth-owner vs fixed-victim, though, means knowing that getting the exercise we need is on us, and us only.

Take ownership of your exercise routine and health by finding activities that you enjoy and start one step at a time. You don’t have to burn yourself out on the first day. It’s much easier to create a success habit that sticks if you don’t dread doing it. A better plan is to start small and increase your activity level each week. I’ve changed my regular gym routine for crazy kid pushups that involve both Wyatt and Emmett hanging on me. But you know what, it’s become a fun routine that has helped reduce the friction of working out just like my basketball and lifting while listening to podcasts did before the pandemic.
It took Phil most of his 12,403 groundhog days to learn that he wasn’t a victim of the universe. But by the time he returned to his regular life, he was a growth-owner living his best life. Use your groundhog days wisely and by the time your life returns to normal, you’ll be armed with success habits that last.

This week’s action tip:

Think of the physical activities you enjoy doing and make a plan to incorporate them into your new daily routine. For example, if dancing makes you feel like a million bucks, turn up the music and dance your heart out for 20 minutes. It’s even more fun when you’re in complete control of the music! Some other ways to dance are through video games like “Just Dance” or through workouts like Beachbody on Demand’s “Country Heat.”
But don’t feel like it has to be a formal program for you to achieve the benefits; anything that elevates your heart rate and makes you happy should do the trick! If this is new for you, start one-two times per week and increase to three-five times per week as you go. Other ideas are to replace the treadmill with pounding the pavement in your neighborhood or at a local park or trail, or play basketball in your driveway with the kids instead of your usual intramural sports. You can also join my Facebook group for daily exercise tips!
Happy moving!