WILL Moore

Stop Failing and Start Living Your Best Life

Use Your Mindset to Stop Failing and Start Living Your Best Life

There are some classic combinations that are just meant to be together. Could anything be more comforting than the smooth, creamy taste of salty peanut butter together with cold sweet jelly hitting the roof of your mouth? How about the sound of pencil scratching along on paper while you write your deepest thoughts? Socks rights out of the dryer paired up with your comfiest pair of sneakers. Red wine complementing a tart cheese.

 

And rap group Run DMC mixed with the classic rock melodies of Aerosmith.

 

Say what? (Sound of record player screeching)…

 

Oh my friends, if you aren’t familiar with the classic Run DMC/Aerosmith Collaboration “Walk this Way,” you’re in for a treat.

 

But first, a little history.

We’re Going Back…. Back to the Future

The year was 1986. Aerosmith had been around since 1970 and while they didn’t dominate the classic rock scene, they had held their own. By the end of the decade, they had quite a little following. They also had quite a little drug habit and it led to the kind of self-sabotage so many bands, like the BeeGees, could relate to. They were stuck in a tragically cliche failure loop. Band members were passing out on stage and internal conflict was aplenty.

Hip Hop on the other hand, was just emerging but far from mainstream. We were listening to full-blown 80s pop while playing with our GI Joes and Transformers – Whitney Houston, Huey Lewis and the News, Madonna, Wham!, and these guys were called Flock of Seagulls.

MTV actually played music videos and it was still a fairly new but exploding concept. The videos were taking the music to a whole new level that audiences couldn’t get enough of. And the right song paired with the right video could create sheer magic! Case in point, Aha’s “Take On Me”!

 

Video truly did kill the radio star in that the song alone no longer cut it. Bands needed the look, the outfits, the big hair, and the acting chops to pull it all off so they didn’t look ridiculous.

 

So, how did a drug-ravaged classic rock band and a rap/hip-hop band even stand a chance of releasing a chart topping pop hit in 1986?

 
“This is hillbilly gibberish … Country bumpkin bullshit!” – Run

Alas, this pairing of past their prime rock royalty and up-and-coming hip hop legends was not a peanut butter meets jelly story – at least at first. The two bands bristled at the idea of a collaboration.

 

Producer Rick Rubin knew he had something legendary in Run DMC. But mainstream radio wasn’t buying it. Hip-Hop and Rap were gaining traction but getting their songs played on the popular radio stations was like trying to fit a square in a round hole. It just wasn’t happening.

Rubin, however, had that growth owner mindset I’m always referring to when speaking of those that know they have something special to offer the world and won’t stop no matter what until they do.

 

He knew there could be something magical in bridging the gap between the explosive Hip Hop style taking the world by storm and the classic grunge rock that had dominated for so long. And what better way to build that bridge but than to take the whitest, most cliche “country bumpkin bullshit” band and have Run DMC rap their lyrics.

 

Neither band was down at first. Aerosmith thinking they were too established, too cool for school to bring in newcomers onto an already proven hit they had over a decade earlier. Run DMC not getting the connection between what they were doing and the music they were setting out to replace.

Alas, Rubin and his growth owner mindset pushed through the temporary obstacles and made it happen. He was able to find the golden ticket to bring them together in that drum rift you hear at the very beginning and throughout the song.

 

The two bands begrudgingly joined forces to spend one day in the studio leading to one of the most original and greatest hits of all time.

 

It. Was. Magic.

 

Here it is in all its glory:

Even though Run DMC didn’t want to be known for lyrics like:

 

So I took a big chance at the high school dance

 

With a miss who was ready to play

Wasn’t me she was foolin’ ’cause she knew what she was doin’

When she told me how to walk this wayyyyy

 

In their wildly popular music video, the two bands literally broke down the wall that had been holding hip-hop back from mainstream music. Suddenly Run DMC was on everyone’s lips. Classic Rock and Pop fans were just exposed to a whole new world of hip hop and rap. Run DMC had officially made it. They were a household name.

 

And Aerosmith catapulted back into the spotlight. The hit was the beginning of a very long and fulfilling success loop. They went on to record a multi-platinum record called Permanent Vacation the next year, followed by three more multi-platinum records and their first number one hit. They were rock legends.

The Lesson
(Hint: you’ll need to learn to walk this way to find your own smash hit)

It’s almost impossible to spot lightning in a bottle before it strikes, yet we often say “of course that was gonna blow up, it’s awesome!”

 

So how do we set ourselves up to spot these moments so we can build momentum on top of them ahead of time? We take a lesson from Mr. Rick Rubin who, instead of following the formulaic mold with his head in the sand, stepped back and took a 10k view on what he saw going on in the industry, and anticipated what might work.

 

He bitch-slapped his fixed-victim self telling him it’s too risky, it won’t work, and allowed his growth owner mindset to rise up and say to yourself “Now looky here. This is going to work and we’re not going to give up until we make it happen.”

 

Are you just going through life checking off to-do’s with your head down following some mold that worked for someone else but is having diminishing returns for you? Are you playing it safe vs taking that big chance at the high school dance?

 

So often we look to others for ideas and try to reinvent their wheel and make it our own. But genius lies in having the courage and creativity to break through brick walls and failure loops to look for ways to make OUR dreams and passions, not someone else’s, a reality.

 

Rubin went on to be a legend with that growth owner mindset of his, and Aerosmith and Run DMC must have picked up on some of it because their careers exploded after that. Were there failures for all three along the way? Of course. But they were able to use them as learning opportunities to then pivot so as to ensure continued momentum.

 

How about you?

 

Doing something groundbreaking is never easy. But a failure habit is to tap a brick wall with a mallet and give up when it doesn’t break the first time, and a success habit is to pound at it with a sledgehammer until it gives way and allows you into the life you’ve always dreamed of. Have the mindset and courage to find your own way with your own passions and success will be yours for the taking.

 

Are you ready to walk this way?

Can Humans Multitask?
Can Humans Multitask?

When you went on that job interview and your future or potential future employer asked you: “Are you a good multitasker?” Did you go, “Yeah buddy, that’s me. I’m all in”?

Hate to burst your bubble, but that’s a bad question and there is no right answer other than: “No, I’m not a good multitasker.”

Multitasking doesn’t exist, my friends. It’s actually a myth.

Turns out we have billions of neurons in our brain that can do lots of pretty cool stuff, but multitasking, doing two things at the same time, straight up is not one of them. Know that myth and use it to help you.

How?

By making sure that when you’re trying to build your habits, you’re not trying to do too many at once.
Why Can’t People Keep Their New Year’s Resolutions?

Leading up to New Year’s, many of us say “I’m gonna be this, I’m going to be that” and then you start taking too many actions. Things like I need to eat well, I need to exercise well, I need to start building my relationships…all of these different cores are trying to be done all at once.



What ends up happening is you get frustrated and you end up quitting because it’s impossible to do!



Your brain hasn’t had time to build that one habit.

Why Is It So Hard To Break Habits?

Remember, habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, helping or hurting us. Once they’re locked in, they’re going to work for or against us.

They’re going to get into our subconscious and start doing their thing so that we don’t have to think about them.

If you have a bad habit that’s hurting you, it’s going to take some front-loaded work. You’re going to have to take those actions, make that commitment, make sure you keep doing them until that failure habit is replaced with a success habit.

If you try to do too many at once, you’re never going to get to that point, and then they’re going to fizzle off and you’re going to find yourself back at square one and all that was wasted energy.

Hope you enjoyed this tip today. Multitasking, “Schmultitasking”. ‘Til next time!
Step Out of Your Comfort Zone to Make Deeper Connections
Step Out of Your Comfort Zone to Make Deeper Connections
Create Connections that Last

Last weekend I challenged myself to see how far I could proactively push myself as a growth-owner (mindset core). I made a pact to proactively introduce myself and start meaningful conversations while at LA Summit 2019.


Not just where are you from and what do you do; I’m talking real connections where we get to the heart of what drives people forward in life. I also challenged myself to approach the speakers I most connected with.


Ray Dalio is the author of an amazing series of books titled “Principles.” I saw him outside the theater during the event and went for it. I told him how our missions are in sync, and how I want to help him build out that mission of helping people become the best versions of themselves. I gave him my card, looked him dead in the eye, and said, “I look forward to working with you to make the world a better place.”


If your goal is to connect with people on a deeper level, the questions you ask will decide the course of the conversation.


Here are the ones I used while pushing myself at the summit:

What makes you want to spring out of bed?

If you didn’t sleep, how would you spend the extra time?

What’s something I should know about you?

If you could do anything in the world right now (with no limitations), what would it be?

If you could know the absolute truth to a question, what would it be?


What have you failed spectacularly at recently, and what did you learn?



I challenge you to pick one of these and use it to build a deeper connection this week. Bonus points if you talk to someone you’re scared to approach.


Let me know how it goes!

What’s YOUR Creative Super-Power?
What’s YOUR Creative Super-Power?
“You’re a tiger, you’re a bear, you’re a drunk monkey who hasn’t slept in a week.” This is how I produced the result of the beautiful ladies you see below. The first photo I’d taken was snore-city – your typical plastered smiles waiting for it to be over. This was my way of getting some genuine human spirit out of these ladies I knew naturally had it bursting out of them – they had all just graduated from an intense 3-year Doctorate of Physical Therapy program at Northwestern. My wife included :).
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Proud of my new creation, I showed the group, who proceeded to further explode in child-like laughter and excitement upon seeing their spirits captured. This remains my favorite photo from that special day.

A HUGE part of building momentum in your Emotional Health/Giving Back core is tapping into your creativity. We ALL have some form of creativity in us, though we’ve been raised to believe that we’re either creative or we’re not. While I’ll agree that some brains are naturally more inclined to spend most of their time in creative land, I also know that it’s imperative we all tap into our own creativity in order to lead our happiest and best life.

If I’m not creating, I’m not happy. My favorite way to create is turning something abstract into something that makes people say, “Wow, didn’t see that coming.” That can be in my art, my writing, my business, or yes, even a photo. When I’m creating I feel alive, and if I can make others feel the same way upon viewing it, that feeling only exponentially grows

Creativity is growing, moving, building momentum. This is the REAL secret to happiness. It’s not the destination, it’s the learning, growth, and fun along the way. It’s about figuring out what excites you, what you have a natural talent for, and expressing that into creations that only you can claim to have birthed. It’s a magical feeling.

What is your creative super-power? What do you feel like you’re naturally good at, are passionate about, and have been able to create something new from scratch with?

Make it your goal to create something this week, and take note of how it makes you feel.

Feel free to reply directly to my weekly email, and/or leave a comment on your favorite social media link of mine :).

Get moving. Gain Momentum. Join the Movement!
Focus in on one of your creatives. What is something you do that, when you do it, makes you feel alive inside because you’ve expressed your inner soul to birth something completely unique. If you’re not regularly expressing it, making sure to work it into your schedule/weekly routine to make sure it doesn’t shrink into oblivion.

One way I tap into my creative is with my writing. I’m one of the lucky ones who get to express this every day. But it wasn’t always this way. I had to figure out how to work it into my everyday life, but once I did it became an automatic daily momentum booster.
Healthy Goals Are More Than Just New Year’s Resolutions
Healthy Goals Are More Than Just New Year’s Resolutions

You know by now that each core is a vital part of your life that combined together, forms your overall happiness & momentum meter (see below gif). Plenty of people can say they’re making decent strides in each one, but how many can say they’re really killing it in all 5? It’s rare. Like, 5% rare

f you’re not continually striving to build momentum in this area of your life, it means you’re not looking and feeling your best, and aren’t creating the energy and longevity necessary to live your best life. I’m not saying you should join your local CrossFit gym today or start bodybuilding, but instead ask yourself what you enjoy doing in the realm of fitness. All the willpower in the world can’t replace good old-fashioned WANTing to do something. You know you should work out, but you really want to eat that cookie. This constant back and forth battle of “wills” will eventually exhaust your energy causing “decision fatigue”. How can you avoid this? Find something you really enjoy doing that gets you moving, then build it into your routine to do it regularly. Once you start seeing and feeling the benefits, you’ll have activated your “why” that makes you “want” to work out.
Don’t let social media and society be your motivation to work out or get moving. This feeling you get to suddenly change your health habits after a long session of scrolling Instagram is a fleeting and temporary feeling. It won’t end in a full-on lifestyle change. You have to REALLY want it for yourself and truly connect with the benefits of working out. Repeated actions + time= lifestyle change. You’ll no longer be relying on that temporary willpower.

I’ve always loved basketball. I’ve been playing minimally 2-3 times a week at the gym for 25 years. Because I enjoy it so much and it gets my competitive juices going, it’s reduced the friction of working out and lowered my natural defense to NOT want to work out. When I was younger, I’d see the older guys playing and I remember being so impressed they were still playing at their age. Now, I’m usually one of the oldest guys on the court. I’ll often get asked how old I am, and the answer always shocks. I love it!

The real secret is that there is no secret. At a certain point I simply figured out what form of exercise I loved doing, then made it part of my regular routine. If I can’t make it to the gym 2-3 times that week, I make up for it by doing pushups in my home office to get my heart rate up. I truly enjoy both this and my gym workouts because I know what they’re doing for my energy, longevity, and happiness!

This week, I’m challenging you to find something you love to do that falls in the realm of fitness. Go for a walk, take a bike ride with the family, whatever you do, just make sure it’s fun for YOU.

As you’re nearing the end of the year, you’ll be seeing and feeling the pressure of those pesky “New Year’s Resolution” posts and comments from everyone around you. Don’t just join a gym because you know you should, but instead figure out what exercise you truly enjoy, set a schedule and goals around it, and keep taking action week after week until it becomes part of you.

Get moving. Gain Momentum. Join the Movement!

Let’s get physical, physical. Feeling a little sluggish after eating allll the turkey and allll the pie? Feels oh so good in the moment but not so much in the days after. Well the good news is, I’m here to tell you go ahead and enjoy some cookies and mashed potatoes this holiday season. But I challenge you to keep it in moderation and kick up your exercise routine with one extra workout per week so that you don’t have to play catch up in January. And don’t forget, exercise doesn’t have to be a snooze-fest. Dance and sports can be a great way to break things up.
Turn Your Passions into Your Dream Life
Turn Your Passions into Your Dream Life
It’s a hard-knock life for us! The lives most people have created really are harrrrd. They live for 9-5 workdays in the same office, doing the same thing until it’s time to retire. Once in a while they get a vacation but feel guilty the whole time they’re gone and come back to a bona-fide mound of paperwork that could make a grown man cry. It’s grim. I mean Tim Burton black and grey cartoon grim.

We’ve been taught by well-meaning parents, peers and teachers that happiness comes at the end of your career. After all the sacrifices have been made, hours logged, and missed time with loved ones, you will be repaid with sunset bliss in retirement. It’s been pounded into your mind that the only way to succeed in life is to wait to enjoy it until you’re in your 60’s. But are you satisfied with that? I can tell you I’m not. All work and no play makes Will a dull boy.

Traditional retirement does not take into account that most people who reach retirement age don’t even want to sit around playing golf and watching sunsets in their golden years. Athletes retire, only to come “out of retirement” soon after for “one more round”. 9-5ers retire and then FINALLY start the business doing what they truly LOVE. Here’s why: Somewhere buried beneath all of the work and obligations, there’s a living breathing mad scientist in you that is dying to follow your passions to create, inspire, and succeed.

By now, you’ve heard me talk about the 95%ers and the 5%ers. The 5%ers don’t wait until they’ve spent a lifetime working on someone else’s passions while neglecting their own. It’s not easy to leap out of your comfort zone and the 5%ers might stand close to the edge and peep over their toes at first. At first they might even think “What if I fall?” But the real, overwhelming, undeniable question that they just can’t squash is “What if I fly?” What if I merge my passion and my career and the sky truly becomes the limit?

Look at Shawn and Ian Murphy. They quit their ritzy corporate jobs to sell ties out of their backpacks on the beach. You read that right, ties. On the beach. Their first day, they sold all 800 ties and now have 18 brick and mortar stores and countless outlet locations for their company “Vineyard Vines”. Straight up living the 5% life.

So hear me now fine people, you don’t have to wait. If you have a deep passion for something, it will never feel like a job. You can be smart about it – I don’t want phone calls from everyone’s mom that I told you to quit your job without a plan. So let me be clear, part of a balanced life is having a roof over your head. But you CAN start cultivating your ideas and your passion and finding a way to get it started, even if you can’t quit what pays the bills yet. It can start as a side gig or a hobby. And if you are incorporating your strengths, your passions, and develop a solid plan supported by goals, you’ll get there, I promise. Remember, one step, two steps, three steps… But it all starts with that first one :).

The opposite of happy isn’t sad, its boredom. Retirement isn’t the goal, following your passion and living your best life now is. So dump that failure habit of procrastination and get started with your new success habit of movement! Figure out what to get moving on, take action, and never look back. This week I’m challenging you to ask yourself what you’re passionate about or what you’re really good at, then take action on it! There’s no better time than the present.

This Week’s Action Tip:
Are you living and working in your field of dreams or busting your hump to make someone else’s dream a reality? I promise you, when you find what you love and what you’re good at, if you build it they will come! Find your passion, start your side hustle, and start making your own dreams come true. One step at a time. This week, my challenge to you is to start with the first step – dig deep and think about what your real passion in life is and how you can turn it into a side hustle or job. Dream until your dreams come true!
Traditions Bring Magic to Your Relationships Year Round
Traditions Bring Magic to Your Relationships Year Round
Ohhhh the holidays. You might love them. You might hate them. You might love to hate them or hate to love them. However you feel, they most likely elicit a fairly strong emotional response. What IS it about the holidays that’s so all-consuming?

Take a minute and think about some of your most vivid holiday memories. You might have one or two memories about getting something you wanted ohhh so bad, but most of our memories are about the people that we’ve spent them with throughout the years and the traditions that were created along the way. If you woke up your parents at 5 am and they snuck downstairs to make sure the coast was clear from the jolly old man in red, chances are, you do some version of this with your kids too.

Growing up my mom always went out and found the perfect REAL tree, and now I have the privilege of getting to do this with my own kids. I still get that magical feeling as when I was little, and on top of that get to see the magic in my kid’s eyes. Sure It’s a pain in the neck, the needles get everywhere and this year I got the Griswold sap glove after putting the tree in its base where everything I touched for 24-hours stuck to my hand like crazy glue. Note to self, once sap is on, it ain’t coming off till it’s ready.

Oh and let’s not ignore the gift portion of the holidays. In 2016, Cindy Chan, assistant professor at U of T Scarborough’s Department of Management and the Rotman School of Management, published a study where she found that experiential gifts were more valuable to recipients than material gifts. The reason? Experiential gifts hit your emotional and relationship cores right in the sweet spot. Chan’s research was different than studies from the past because instead of focusing on whether a gift recipient LIKED the gift, she focused on how the gift affected the relationship between the gift-giver and the recipient.

Experiential gifts help nurture relationships. Even if you don’t participate in the actual using of the gift, it strengthens your bond because the recipient still associates you with the experience. That’s how strong the connection between relationships and experiences is!

Whatever holiday rituals you have, whether it’s presents accompanied by a Menorah or Xmas tree, they’re probably geared toward strengthening the bond with your family. Don’t let this momentum in your relationship core fade this year. Keep that extra magic you give to your family gong all year.

Sunday night dinners with the whole family or game nights with the kiddos on Friday nights are traditions that strengthen your relationships all year long. Level it up by putting away cell phones and putting your 5%er relationship skills to use! Look your loved ones in the eye, ask meaningful questions and be present in the experience. After all, relationships are FRA-GEE-LAY and deserve to be treasured.

I wish you all the happiest of holidays and a year ahead of balanced cores and happy lives!
This Week’s Action Tip:
Who do you love? In this digital day and age, it can be easy to hit the like button and think we’re nurturing our relationships. But this week I challenge you to pick up the phone or visit someone you haven’t talked to or seen in person in a while. I promise you, it will do wonders for your relationship and foster positive momentum in your life!
How to Make Real Change This New Year
How to Make Real Change This New Year
Yowza! 2019 is nearly in our rearview. Do you feel like you gained more positive than negative momentum this past year? If even the thought of answering this makes you cringe, fear not. We’re just getting started and I PROMISE you that if you stick with me and my system this year you’ll be on your way to firing on all cylinders!

Auld Lang Syne. Not a typo. It means “old long since” or more loosely translated “for old times’ sake.” When we sing it on New Year’s Eve, we’re toasting to old times and looking forward to a New Year and new experiences. But to really get the most out of this phrase, it’s more about reflecting back on what happened with your happiness this past year. Did it go up or down? Did you gain positive or negative momentum? And what resolutions will help you build more happiness and momentum?
Most of us make well-intentioned resolutions year after year to no avail. We REALLLLYYYY mean it in the moment. We’re pumped. We’re ready. But according to Inc, Magazine, only 8% of us actually follow through on New Year’s resolutions. And 50% of people admit they failed before January was even over! Crashed and burned huh, Mav?
So why in the heck don’t they stick?

It all comes down to your habits. Habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, they do their thing and take their toll on us over time either way. Once they’ve established themselves, they dig their claws in and hold on for dear life, making them extremely difficult to change. The key is to eliminate your failure habits and replace them with success habits.

But how? It starts with the mother of all your cores. Your mindset. I break down people’s mindsets into two categories, 1) higher growth-owner and 2) lower-fixed victim. The lower fixed-victim is tapping into that primal part of the brain that believes they’re born the way they are and there’s nothing they can do about it, might as well grab every lowest hanging fruit out there to make the most out of the bad hand they’ve been dealt.

 
The higher growth-owner mindset, on the other hand, takes a step back and looks at things from the 10,000 ft view. They understand that they have unique strengths and passions that they can leverage, can find workarounds for those areas they’re not as strong in, and KNOW that life is about continually learning and growing on their way to becoming the best version of themselves.

The below illustration signifies the two paths you can take. One of them involves stepping into what I call your “success loop” and involves you heading up into that bright bold beautiful sky. The other involves remaining in your failure loop which will send you crashing down to earth (or worse never leaving the launch pad to begin with).

To hop into your success loop being piloted by your higher growth-owner self, your first step will be to take note of what your biggest wins and losses were this past year. What seemed to help you gain that positive momentum on your way to becoming the happiest and best version of yourself, and what seemed to cause your happiness to plummet.

Next, take the above info and ask yourself what the top 3 habits you KNOW that if you were to develop this year would improve your life. They can either be failure habits to stop or success habits to start.
Next, let’s put those habits into their proper cores. For instance, if your three were 1) Limit sugar intake, 2) Spend more quality time with friends and family, and 3) Save more money this year, the three corresponding cores would be 1) Physical Health, 2) Relationships, and 3) Career & Finances.

Finally, ask yourself how you can start building your three habits immediately and make sure they stick? What small action can you commit to making this week in each of your three habits?

The hard part will be keeping your commitment to yourself week after week until they become habit. But don’t fret, that’s what I’m here for.

The book and the app that will be launching in the next year will greatly help you with this, but in the meantime let me be your momentum partner so I can help ensure day by day, step by step, I’m helping you to take advantage of, vs being taken advantage BY, what I call the EQUATION OF LIFE: Your Belief System + Your Repeated Actions + Time = Who You Will Become.

 
 
I wish you the best for 2020 and beyond! Thanks for being on this journey with me this year! I look forward to fostering my relationship core by getting to know my Momentum Builders better through my 5 Core Facebook group. If you haven’t already, I hope you’ll join us to interact with me and like-minded people who are ready to take control of their overall happiness!
 
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Giving Back: The Most Powerful Tool in Your Emotional Health Toolkit
Giving Back: The Most Powerful Tool in Your Emotional Health Toolkit

Have you ever wondered why the Emotional Health Core is usually listed as “Emotional Health/ Giving Back?” That’s because giving back is such a huge part of your emotional health that it’s almost on equal terms of importance.

The Emotional Health Core is nurturing the mind to feel good, do good, and leave a legacy you can be proud of. Giving Back is one of these elements to nurturing. The more you give and help others, the more you’ll fill your soul with joy and get back in return.

Think of how you feel all warm and fuzzy inside when you do a good deed for someone else. Giving is quite literally good for you. Even just witnessing an act of kindness can trigger this same response.
Recently I was standing in line at the drugstore. There was a young man and his mother waiting in front of me.

As we stood there waiting in line, I started to get aggravated it was taking so long. When the mother and son got to the register in front of me, I noticed that all they bought was a bag of chips and a pack of Oreos. My judging mind started to creep in and I caught myself thinking how unhealthy their choice of snack was before I squashed the thought.

As I exited, I noticed a big smile on a homeless guy’s face sitting outside the store. Upon further inspection, I saw that the young gentleman in front of me had handed him his pack of Oreos.

Bravo, sir!

I patted the young man on the back who just minutes earlier had been frustrating me and said, “Nice work, man, we need more like you.”

Your emotional health core thrives on helping others and giving back, so it’s important to seek opportunities to make another person’s day like that young man did.
Most people aren’t driven by power and money. They want power and money in order to make an impact in the areas they care about. Family, humanitarian causes, a desire to change an industry, or make the world a better place… In determining how YOU best can give back, use whatever you’re already great at at and passionate about to help you leave your legacy. For me, it’s writing a book and building an app that I’m hoping will lead to a movement of change where I help people become the best version of themselves to in turn pay it forward to make the world a better place.
Your goal is to create a cycle of giving. You give back to a cause you care about and get a boost of energy and empowerment from doing so. That boost lets you turn around and accomplish even more, which will in turn spur you to want to give back even more. This is part of what I call your “success loop,” which we’ll discuss more of in the near future.

Your tip this week is to determine what you can do to give back to others. Remember, start with what you already enjoy doing and are good at. How can you incorporate it into your regular routine? Maybe you love sports and could volunteer to be a big brother for an underprivileged kid where you play a sport you both enjoy once/week. Or maybe you love to bake and can make something for the local shelter?

Now go do goooooooooddddddd!
Finding Joy in the Ordinary Boosts Your Emotional Health
Finding Joy in the Ordinary Boosts Your Emotional Health
“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it.”
In the above quote from the timeless classic, Peter Pan, J.M. Barrie simply and beautifully illustrates the massive change we all go through from childhood to adulthood where many of us forget how to fly. I had once forgotten how to fly, but am one of the few fortunate ones who remembered how.

Most of us know we can’t live in Neverland forever; but we should all visit from time to time. Allowing ourselves to feel the wonder and freedom of childhood which fills our soul, gives us energy, and makes us want to be the best version of ourselves.

In balancing all five of our core areas – mindset, relationships, emotional health/giving back, career and finance, and physical health – it can be hard to prioritize joy. Most of us have real responsibilities and can’t live full time in Neverland while managing our finances and raising a family.

I’m here to tell you, though, you DO need to find your childlike wonder on a regular basis to ensure you’re filling your emotional health core so you can FIRE ON ALL CYLINDERS.

Have you ever caught yourself watching “Finding Nemo” after your kids go to bed? Or singing “Let It Go” by yourself while you’re getting ready for work? These movies still touch our souls as adults because they tap into the inner child in us that still craves adventure and magic. There are rides at Disney World that have 3 hour lines chock-full of grown men and women who want to feel the rush of flying through the world of Avatar on the back of a banshee. Joy and wonder and excitement may change as we get older, but it shouldn’t end.

One of the ways I find my childlike wonder these days is to see experiences that I’ve been taking for granted through the eyes of my child. Watching his eyes light up during a fireworks show helps me to see the vivid colors and feel the loud booms with excitement again. He gets excited every time a big truck pulls up next to us. The bigger the better! Can you imagine as an adult getting pure unbridled joy from a semi slowing down your evening commute? I can. Because that enthusiasm and wonder is contagious.

Sometimes I’ll be in the car alone and see a semi and think “Oh yeah, that’s a big one!” and laugh to myself because Wyatt isn’t even there. But in that moment, I found happiness in the ordinary. It’s a gift Wyatt has given to me that keeps my emotional health in check.

So, when you go for that run this weekend, go ahead and imagine you are being chased by a demogorgan. Take a hike through the woods and stop to marvel at the size of the paw prints you see (unless they are REALLY big, then don’t stop. Run like the wind, Forrest!). Feel the ice cold crunchiness of the snow in your hand and maybe even take a little taste (not if it’s yellow though. Never if it’s yellow.) Allow yourself to be silly and free. Find YOUR happiness in the everyday.

“Now, think of the happiest things
It’s the same as having wings
Let’s all try it, just once more
Look! We’re rising off the floor
Jiminy! Oh my! We can fly!
You can fly! We can fly!”
-You Can Fly! You Can Fly! You Can Fly!