Should You Wait Until Retirement to Build Your Dream Life?
May 3, 2022
It’s a hard-knock life for us! Most people live really difficult lives, consisting of 8-hour workdays, doing the same routine over and over until the time comes to retire. Vacations are rare and mostly guilt-ridden, because why would you relax on a beach when you could be working on that pile of paperwork sitting on your desk? It’s grim. Like, thunderstorms-at-the-beach grim.
It’s generally acknowledged that our work will ultimately lead to our happiness, but that happiness only comes after our careers are over. You have to sacrifice time with your family and pour your heart and soul into heartless paperwork until it’s time for retirement. You’ve been told that the only time you’ll relax is when you’re well into your 60’s.
Does that sound great to you? I gotta tell you, that doesn’t sound very good to me; Will needs his play time, which is why I’ve devoted so much effort into mastering gamification. This isn’t the way things have to be; you can rebuild your life to become something more.
Examining the Retirement Stage: Is It What Everyone Says?
Most people in retirement don’t actually want to become members at country clubs and rock in their chairs when their careers end. Singers retire, only to come “out of retirement” to release one more chart-topping single. People who have done 8-hour workdays their whole lives retire, only to start their own business of their dreams. Why is that?
I’ll tell you: your natural creativity is just itching to be set free. Beneath your 9-5 workday is a soul scratching at the surface, aching to create. You never really let go of achieving your dreams; hope is a powerful thing, and it’s sparked when you let go of the work that restrains you and you have a chance to rebuild your life. You have a passion to create, inspire, succeed and reach your goals on your own terms, if you have a growth mindset.
But here’s the thing. You don’t have to wait until boredom drives you to start releasing your inner passion. You can start rebuilding your life now and combine your passion with your career so you can succeed on your own terms.
How Do You Start Rebuilding Your Life?
If you’ve read some of my other blogs, you may have heard me talk about people who have a growth-owner mindset vs a fixed-victim mindset. The growth-owner mindset group feel their passion and let it free. They live their lives following their own dreams instead of fulfilling others’. Not all growth owners jump right in; some slowly inch out of their comfort zone, but the point is they are taking the first steps, even if they’re just baby steps. Their risk tolerance is high because they know they would rather jump and fall than never jump at all. And they discover that combining your career and your passions is, in fact, possible; the sky is truly the limit when rebuilding your life.
“What if I fall?”
“Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?”
Take Shawn and Ian Murphy, for example. They left behind their office jobs to rebuild their lives and follow their dreams, starting by selling ties on the beach. Yes, they sold ties on the beach. They carried them in their backpacks and sold all 800 of them. Now they have several locations for their company Vineyard Vines. Talk about 5%ers.
If you truly are passionate about something, it won’t ever feel like work. So, how do you start relearning the good habits to become a growth owner?
Here are a few things to help you get started:
Cultivate your ideas and passion. Determine what it is that you really want to do. Start a passion, skill, or problem sheet: What are you passionate about? What are your skills? What problems can they solve? And how can you turn all that into a career? Write it down. Mix it up. Get creative!
Start small. Don’t quit your job just yet if you don’t feel ready; you can always start your passion as a side job or a hobby. It all starts with just a step. Rebuilding your life cannot be done all at once; it takes time, and as long as you incorporate your strengths and passions and develop a plan, you’ll get exactly where you need to be. Promise.
Be smart about it. When you do feel ready to quit your job, make sure you have a well-developed plan to keep yourself afloat. It’s important to keep a balanced life; if you can’t keep the water running, you’re not keeping up with your five cores. If you do have a plan, and you’ve combined your strengths and skills with a solid problem to solve, then you can begin to rebuild and create a life of passion and contentment for yourself!
Despite common beliefs, the opposite of being happy isn’t being sad; it’s being bored. There is no light at the end of the tunnel labeled “retirement.” Your passion and skills can be combined to rebuild your lifenow; don’t wait to start living. Gain momentum and movement through your well-developed goals and plans. I repeat, don’t wait! And don’t you dare look back! As Ben Franklin most eloquently said, among other wise things, “Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today.”
This Week's Action Tip:
Are your time and effort going to your own dreams or are you sacrificing all your passion to make someone else’s dream come true? I guarantee that if you find your passion and your skills, and get started on combining them to create a reality, the rest will come easy. Always take it one step at a time; know that by taking the first step, you’re one step closer to achieving a rebuilt life full of passion and happiness.
This week, I challenge you to take that first step. Reach back deep into your mind, soul, and heart to find that one thing that drives you. How can you turn that passion into something tangible, something that could become a career for life? Write down your passions, skills, and ideas! Make all the combinations! As all growth owners know, the sky's the limit. You can do anything you set your mind to.
Want to know where you stand in the five values of life tied to happiness (your five cores)? Take this two-minute Core Values Quiz to get your core score in the five values of life.