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Apr 24, 2022
You’ve Got Control Over Your Life. Just Do What The Bee Gees Did…. Eventually.
Hey there Casanovas and disco queens, are you ready to boogie to the max? After watching “The Bee Gees: How Can You Mend a Broken Heart” on HBO I’m feelin’ the flower power (and it’s powerful alright)!
Sorry about my silly 70s references, but man did I love how this Bee Gees documentary made me feel. Not only did it act as a time machine to an era filled with groovy tunes and foxy fashion, but it made me understand how to break bad habits—and so can this blog.
Let’s keep on steppin’! Maybe I’m tripping a bit thinking you all are experts when it comes to the Bee Gees. Don’t know who they are? Maybe this will help:
A Merry-Go-Round of Momentum
Much like a carnival ride, the Bee Gees had a revolving career full of ups and downs. Now these lads loved The Beatles (I mean who doesn’t?) and they decided that they were gonna be JUST like them.
Well... that kind of worked for ‘em. They were exactly like them when it came to certain stimulants rhyming with rugs if you know what I mean. But they were also able to blast off into popularity for a bit before dipping into the depths of obscurity.
No need to despair, this wasn’t the end of the Bee Gees. In 1977, good vibes were brought back into the mix in the form of the movie “Saturday Night Fever.” This masterpiece shot them up into fame—not to be confused with the 1980 film by the same name—as disco kings!
Those three men dressed in blindingly bright pantsuits flew as high up on momentum as they possibly could, taking them all the way to stardom. Then, they fell hard.
They went from blasting off, to falling down, to taking right back off again. Round and round the cycle they went until they built enough positive momentum to keep themselves up. By watching the documentary, I quickly realized the secret to their success. That secret? How to break bad habits.
It’s simple to understand exactly which failure habits made them fall down, and the success habits that sanctioned them to reach for the stars. It all came down to how to break bad habits that they allowed to build up and mess with their groovy flow.
Perception Connection: Keep on Keepin’ On
Mirroring the drama of the Bee Gees themselves, their HBO documentary opens with their hit “Stayin’ Alive” while clips of the band play montage-style.
Now here’s the lowdown: if you aren’t a fan of the Bee Gees you may not know that Barry Gibb, at 74 years old, is the last living brother of the group. Later in the documentary, Barry has a voiceover (spoiler alert: it’s mind blowing).
“My immediate family is gone, but that’s life. It’s the same thing in every family, that someone will be left in the end. [At] this time in life, I have fantastic memories, but everybody’s memories are different. So they’re just my memories, you know?” - Barry Gibbs.
Sure, it’s a bit of a bummer, but here’s a hilarious skit of Jimmy Fallon impersonating Barry on Saturday Night Live to make you feel better. Good? Anyways, this voiceover really shows how to break bad habits and be happy—it all comes down to your approach.
As the story moves forward, the momentum trips these brothers go on really begin to emphasize Barry’s meaning in his voiceover. Happiness is a locked door, and perception is the key.
Get Your Groove On
Barry had everything he needed to really enjoy his former glory (that sparkly pantsuit for one), and yet he wasn’t as happy as he could have been.
Why is that? Well, good ol’ Barry was set on being a victim of the world; he didn’t know how to break bad habits and thought there was nothing he could do to make his situation better.
In other words, he was stuck in a fixed-victim mindset. His perception of himself was so fixed on this that he was unable to see past it to build up his momentum. He didn’t know how to break bad habits that weighed him down.
Coming to the present, Barry is now more aware of his perception and the way he blocked up his happiness for so long. He can fondly look back and see what the past may look like if he were a growth-owner instead of focusing on staying a victim. Much like he must’ve, we are all capable of saying:
“Hey you, I know you’ve got it in you. You ARE strong and powerful. Sure, there may be some hurdles in life, but those are temporary. Growth is forever. When you come up against a problem, you’ll knock it out like a bad*&$ because you know that it’s an opportunity for you to become the best you that you can be.”
So, How Can You Break Bad Habits?
In what way do you perceive your life? As Barry taught us, you could be looking at your life through a tinted perspective that affects everything you do.
This applies to all aspects of life: your career path, your relationships, your aspirations, and everything in between. Do you know how to break bad habits, or do you feel stuck in a loop of failure?
If you ARE trapped in a fixed-victim mindset, what will you do to turn it around and become a growth-owner? So that instead of lacking energy, you find yourself building up positive momentum more and more every day?
Start by taking advice from the Bee Gees with their glittery pantsuits and glorious hairstyles: life is what you make of it. Instead of believing you don’t know how to break bad habits, escape that downtrodden mindset and do something about it.
How To Break Bad Habits to Make 2021 Your B!#@h
While this somber remembrance of the Bee Gees is upsetting, it isn’t unique to them. Many musicians are susceptible to the darker side of life because of all the pressure, and that type of reality is what HBO wants for their documentaries—one of my favorites being “Rolling Stone: Stories from the Edge.”
After all, people like you and me aren’t music gods or wearing sparkly pantsuits (right?); if they can’t get through it, what chance do we have?
Funny enough, you’ve got an even better shot.
Because you aren’t preoccupied with trying to be a rock legend or having to deal with being a famous band from the 70s, it’ll be easier for you to learn how to break bad habits. So, let’s keep moving forward.
The first thing you can do is realize that your brain is creating and following new habits all the time. But these habits may not always be good for you.
The truth? Your habits don’t know or care if they are good vs. bad. YOU need to identify which are working FOR you and which are working against you in order to create a better, healthier life for yourself.
Next, it’s time to act! If you want to go from having a fixed-victim mindset to being a growth-owner you need to ask yourself, how would a growth-owner start? Those pesky failure habits need breaking and they aren’t gonna do it themselves. The first thing you can do to learn how to break bad habits is to take action.
I hear you, “but how do I take action?” you’re thinking. Well, I’ll give you a tip. It may feel strange but one of my top helpful activities is to put thoughts to paper. Think about your top 3 fears and then write them out.
By scribbling them down, you are taking them out of your head and placing them onto the paper. Once you know where to begin, you can start practicing how to step out of your comfort zone and how to break bad habits. If you start small, you’ll be able to build up positive momentum in no time!
The best part? The year is still fresh, and you’ve got a lot of time to make 2021 your b!#@h.
You can do anything you put your mind to, just like Will Smith says in the 2006 film “The Pursuit of Happyness.” You are capable of learning how to break bad habits and being a growth-owner!
But, if you want extra help or just want to chit chat about growth or happiness, DM me on Instagram. I’m always down for a convo with like-minded individuals. Now I gotta skitty, so peace out, homefry.
Let’s Keep On Steppin’
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