How to Make Real Change This New Year
May 6, 2022
Woah! It may seem crazy, but this year is almost behind us, guys. Think: have you gained more positive momentum or negative momentum this year? If even the thought of the answer makes you want to curl in a ball and hide, don’t worry. I have a few tips to help you out! As long as you stick with me and my advice this upcoming year, you’ll be able to develop the perfect self-growth plan.
Auld Lang Syne.
What did you just read? It’s an old saying that means “old long since” or, if translated a bit looser, “for old times’ sake.” Some people like to chant in on New Year’s Eve to raise their glasses to old times and welcome new ones. But there is more to this phrase than just that. It allows you to think back on the previous year and examine your positive versus negative momentum. Based on what you’ve done this past year, what resolutions and self-growth plans do you need to create to build more happiness in the coming year?
The Effectiveness of New Year’s Resolutions
You may feel a little skeptical about New Year’s resolutions. Does anyone really keep theirs, anyway? Sure, we all truly mean it in the moment, as we’re writing them down, but when do we actually carry out that list of resolutions? And you’re right. This article on Inc, Magazine states that only 8% of people actually stick to their New Year’s resolutions, and 50% admit they gave up before the end of January! What’s up with that?
The heart of the issue is your habits. Remember, habits can be positive or negative, and once they’re locked in, they are very hard to get rid of. Getting rid of bad habits is only done by replacing them with success habits, as explained further in this article. And after that, you can work on your self-growth plan.
The Role of Your Mindset
Your mindset plays a huge role in creating success habits and a good self-growth plan. You can only focus on your cores if you have a good mindset; it’s the required prerequisite.
The mindset can be divided into two categories:
lower-fixed victim: people with this mindset believe they were born the way they are and there is nothing they can do to change or better themselves. They settle for whatever is handed to them instead of working towards something better.
higher growth-owner: people with this mindset take a step back to look at the bigger picture. They know their unique skills and passions can be combined to solve any hiccups and bumps in the road. They understand that life is about growing, learning, and becoming the best version of themselves by cultivating their passions and taking their self-growth plan one step at a time.
The diagram below shows the two paths available to you. One is the “success loop;” it will shoot you into the big, beautiful expanse above and show you all the possibilities of reaching the sky. The other is the “failure loop;” it hurtles you down to cold, hard earth, or worse, it never leaves the launch pad at all.
The Four Steps: Create Your Self-Growth Plan
There are four steps you should take to make sure you hop on the success loop rocket and adapt that higher growth-owner mindset to create the perfect self-growth plan:
Take note of your highest highs and lowest lows of the past year. What was the cause of your peak happiness? What made that happiness and positive momentum take a nosedive? What were you doing at your best times and at your worst? Write down whatever comes to mind.
Using all the information you gathered from the first step, determine what habits you could develop to keep your positive momentum going. Choose your top 3 habits: what do you think you could incorporate to generally improve your mindset and your life? Of the three, one or two could also be failure habits you have that you would like to stop.
Organize those three habits into their respective cores. For example, if your habits were 1) Improve sleep schedule, 2) Work creativity into everyday routine, and 3) Start a savings account, the three cores would be 1) Physical Health, 2) Mindset, and 3) Career and Finances.
Start brainstorming how you can begin incorporating these habits immediately. What can you do to make sure you sleep on time every night? How can you ensure that habit will get locked in so it doesn’t fizzle out? Take a small action this week to work towards locking those habits in.
If you feel a little overwhelmed or unsure if you can commit to the habits, don’t worry. I’m here to help you.
I’ll soon have a book and app out that will help you immensely with keeping up with your habits. Meanwhile, allow me to be your momentum partner so I can be with you every step of the way and make sure you commit to creating success habits and stopping failure habits so you can create your self-growth plan.
Take note and advantage of the Equation of Life: Your Belief System + Your Repeated Actions + Time = Who You Will Become.
With these steps, your self-growth plan will be perfect for helping you stick to your resolutions! Remember that I am always here to help and remind you to commit to your habits. I hope the new year treats you well!
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Want to know where you stand in the five values of life tied to happiness (your five cores)? Take this two-minute Core Values Quiz to get your core score in the five values of life.