Aww Sooky Sooky. Just finished watching the Bee Gees HBO documentary and let me tell you, I’m diggin what they were throwin down. It was out of sight, totally groovy man.
My 70s slang aside, I am so glad I finally watched it and I highly recommend it not only for the sheer thrill of being transported back to the disco era in glorious fashion, but maybe you’ll learn a thing or two about yourself as you watch with the help of this article.
Here’s the skinny. If I’m dating myself by assuming you know who the Bee Gees are, here’s all you need to know about the brothers:
Their journey was a true nerve testing roller-coaster – not to be confused with the hit song “Love Rollercoaster” from that same era. The Gibb boys followed in the footsteps of their idols, the Beatles, coming out of England to take the world by storm in their teens, but then they became nearly irrelevant, only to shoot to mega stardom years later in 1977 with the soundtrack from the movie “Saturday Night Fever” – solidifying their status as the kings of disco. Something that would later come to bite them in their silky gold pants suits (but I’ll leave out the spoilers).
Those Gibb brothers experienced as big a momentum ride as a human can take. Soaring up, up up into the big, bold, beautiful sky, then falling down, down, down back to earth. Then up, up up … well, you get the idea. And throughout the documentary it became crystal clear what failure habits led to their initial demise (hint one of them rhymes with plugs), and what success habits allowed them to stage their epic comeback.
Let that sink in for a groovy sec. This one, my friends, is the difference between living a happy, prosperous, soul-filled life or … a pretty crappy one.
Without giving away too many spoilers, as we move through the history of these seemingly lucky, then cursed, then lucky again brothers’ lives, it becomes crystal clear what Barry meant. All that fame, money, and power and this poor guy hardly enjoyed any of it.
Why did he suffer instead of bask in the glow of what should have been one of the best lives anyone has ever lived (I mean look at that hair)? He was consumed with a fixed-victim mindset that had him convinced that he was cursed, the world was out to get him, and there was nothing he could do about it. His entire reality was being seen through this lens which crushingly skewed every single moment he had during that time.
It’s only now that he realizes what life might have looked like through a growth-owner’s eyes. That higher self we all have the opportunity to tap into and tell ourselves:
“Listen up and listen good. I know I’ve got everything within me to kick ass and take names, I’m going to fail forward learning and growing every step of the way, and obstacles are temporary roadblocks waiting for solutions. Fear, meh, I’ll give it the finger because I know it’s merely an opportunity to help me become the bigger, better, faster, stronger, version of myself.”
What lens are you looking through life with and how has that lens affected where you currently stand today? Where you live, what you do for a living, what direction and with how much velocity you’re headed there with?
Which mindset do you think will create positive momentum moving forward? Which will momentify your life so that rather than constantly searching for happiness, happiness gravitates toward you like a moth to a flame – or a Bee Gee to a sequins pant suit.
Learn from Barry, the last remaining Bee Gee (shoot, I did it again, I’m terrible with spoilers) who wishes he could do it all over again. Someone who, on the surface would have been the envy of anyone, but who’s mindset framed that period of his life in mostly misery and pain.
Sadly, the tale of Barry Gibb and the rest of the Bee Gees is not uncommon for celebrities. In fact, they are much more likely to suffer the type of existence that makes for a great HBO documentary, or my fav from back in the day, “VH1’s Behind The Music.” So what shot do little ol’ you have?
Ironically, a better one.
You don’t have the enormous distractions and temptations that come with having an angel’s voice, golden locks, and a furry chest. So let’s get to work.
There are several life-hacks I have to trick your dog-brain into working FOR instead of against you, and they all revolve around your habits. Your habits don’t care if they’re good or bad, working for or against you – in the end they’re going to compound and form who you are either way.
The more action you take based on what a growth-owner would do, the more you’ll slowly start to feel and experience the life you’re fully capable of having.
A top one of these actions is to write down a list of your top 3 fears. I’m serious, you can’t just think of them. Writing has a magical effect on making things real so that we have to pay attention to them.
Next, make a commitment to yourself in the next week to tackle one of these fears head on NO MATTER WHAT. Start small, but keep your promise to yourself and you’ll be on your way to stepping out of your “failure loop” and into your “success loop.” Growth-owner launch initiated!
Since we’re still at the start of the year, you’ve got plenty of time to make 2021 your B!#@h. Like another one of my favs from back in the day, this one from the 80’s hit “The Goonies” that I just watched with my son this weekend, it’s YOUR TIME. “Our Time” Goonies Clip!
If you need help, DM me. I love rapping one on one with people who are serious about owning their happiness.
Peace, love and granola.